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How to Make Sure Your Guests Enjoy Your Wedding

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People always say that it’s “your day”, and while they are right I always think the best weddings are ones that really take care of the guests too. While I am all for making decisions based on what makes you and your partner happy, I think it’s really nice to consider how your friends and family will enjoy the day.

Here are eight relatively simple things you might consider doing. After all, happy guests will make the day even more magical!

Make transportation easy

Logistics, especially if you are having parts of the day in different locations, can be a stress point for some guests. Particularly if they’re not from the area it might be a nice idea to lay on transport to make sure everyone can get from A to B. For extra bride-points, why not lay on taxis to make sure everyone gets home safely too?

Offer plenty of food options

With so many people having allergies, intolerances and dietary requirements, picking one meal to suit everybody’s needs is most likely an impossibility! To make sure everyone is fed and watered, consider putting on a couple of meal options (you can ask them in your invites if they have any specific requirements or have a couple of options and get them to pick one). You could also have a buffet with lots of different things to try. Most catering companies should be able to rustle up vegetarian, vegan and gluten/ nut free options for specific cases.

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Have an open bar

OK so obviously this is very much budget dependant, but if you really want to hold favour with your guests, have an open bar! The more cost effective option might be to source drinks yourselves from wholesalers or supermarkets rather than using a bar service who will charge you per drink (pro tip: most supermarkets will do awesome bulk buy deals around Christmas so stock up then!)

Surprise them with things they might not have thought of

If you’re having an outdoor wedding, provide blankets or fans for the ceremony (climate depending!), have wellies for a potentially wet wedding and flip flops or ballet pumps on hand if people will be on their feet all night.

If you have guests staying over a ‘hangover kit’ including things like paracetamol, coffee, an eye mask, plasters and a mini toothpaste and toothbrush will also be very much appreciated the next day!

Include extra information on your invitations

The things your guests always want to know are directions and transport options, accommodation choices, things to do in the area (if they’re coming from out of town), dress code and info about the gift list. Make it easy for your nearest and dearest by including all this on an insert sheet inside your invites, or on your wed-site!

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How To Write Your Own Vows

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Writing your own wedding vows has got to be one of the best ways to add a personal spin to your day. Forget the DIY and quirky reception décor, the ceremony is really where it’s at!

Before you put pen to paper, sit down somewhere quiet and answer the following questions. While there are no wrong answers, the ones that you give will be the perfect jumping off point for some really personal vows and will help you if you get stuck!

Why marriage?

Why do you want to be married over just living together? What does being married mean to you? Security? Having a someone on your team? Commitment? Eternal happiness?

Why do you want to write your own vows?

Is it because you want to make it more personal? Maybe you don’t like the traditional vows? Maybe you have something specific you want to say or promise?

How do you want your partner to feel when they hear them?

Happy, excited, emotional, special?

What is something cute, funny or incessantly ‘them’ that they do?

What do they do that no one else does? What about them makes you laugh or smile? What drives you round the bend about them (but you secretly love them for it)!?

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What are your common, quirky interests?

Comic books, music, pets, kids, fashion, Japanese art?! Little references to those interests will make your vows funny, personal and special (“I promise to be the Princess Leia to your Han Solo”, “I promise to never complain about feeding the cat…”)

Do you have any in-jokes?

Your vows are the perfect chance to be 100% yourselves. Do you have any silly in-jokes, words or language that only the two of you use? Do you have pet names for each other?

For example Gareth and I call our anniversary our “marriversary” and instead of asking if the other person wants a cup of tea we say “cup of smee…” as in Captain Hook and Mr Smee… Who the hell knows where they come from but these little colloquialisms will make your vows even more personal!

Was there a defining moment in your relationship?

Have you been through tough times when they were really there for you? Did you have the holiday of a lifetime together? What about the birth of your first child or getting your first fur baby!?

When did you first realise you loved them?

Remind yourself what happened and how you felt. Did you tell them right away or did they say it first?

What five things do you love about them the most?

Pretty self explanatory! Get really specific and try not to be too general. Instead of saying “I love the way you make me laugh”, write down the exact ways that they make you laugh.

Is there something special you want to promise them?

To be their rock… to support their unusual career… to always do the washing up?!

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12 Surprising Ways to Make Your Wedding Budget Stretch Further

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With the average cost of a wedding in the UK allegedly being upwards of £18,000, it’s no surprise that more and more alternative brides and grooms are looking for ways to cut costs.

But how can you create a stunning wedding, on a budget, whilst still having the best day possible? Here are my best wedding budgeting tips!

1. Look beyond the traditional

You need a wedding dress, so you go to a bridal boutique… you need a wedding cake so you go to a bakery… you need flowers… well, you get the idea.

This doesn’t have to be the case though. The British high street has so much to offer! From clothing stores like Coast and Monsoon offering wedding dress lines, Marks and Spencer and Asda doing wedding cakes and cut flowers being available in nearly every supermarket, looking outside the wedding industry bubble for these things can really save you thousands!

2. Buy secondhand

There are lots of websites that are great resources for secondhand wedding bargains. Look on for-sale.co.uk, eBay and preownedweddingdresses.com for pre-used items, many of which are complete steals!

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3. Enter competitions

You’ll be amazed what you could end up with. Wedding photography, wedding planning, cakes, dresses, décor, the works! Wedding blogs and magazines often host contests so make sure you enter as many as you can. Remember someone always has to win!

4. Shop out of season

When looking décor particularly, shop in the sales. After Christmas is a great time to get sparkly, kitschy items and post Halloween is the perfect opportunity to really score black vases and table wear, skull candles and themed candy! Don’t forget about Valentines Day sales too, especially if you want things pink, red or love themed!

5. Buy in bulk

Especially when it comes to the booze! Instead of using a normal bar service where you have to pay per drink, why not stock up at somewhere like Majestic or Costco? Some of these places will also buy back any alcohol that’s not used, and will throw in free glasswear hire for big orders. They always have massive sales after major holidays too.

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How to Remember Deceased Loved Ones At Your Wedding

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By the time a lot of people get married, it is quite likely that they will have lost someone near and dear to them. I’ve had quite a few people email me about this over the past few weeks, so today I wanted to share some simple ways you can include a loved one who has passed away in your wedding day.

While many people might wince at the idea of including a memorial as part of a wedding day (for fear of it being too depressing or overshadowing the celebration), there are many ways that you can honour and include them in a subtle yet special way.

Have a photo of them in a locket, tied on your bouquet

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Set up a memory table with photographs of them

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Do I Need Bridesmaids?

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Hey Kat! I’m getting married in September and have been stressing over The Bridesmaid Situation for a while now. So my question is, what’s the Rock n Roll version of a bridesmaid and what does she do?

As much as I love channelling Blair Waldorf it just seems a bit minion-y, like an on-display clique, since I don’t have an obvious set of BFFs and hate to “draw the line”. Help!

I’m going to let you in on a secret: There isn’t really any reason, other than tradition, for bridesmaids (or groomsmen for that matter). Allegedly, bridesmaids came about because in Roman times the law required female witnesses at the wedding, dressed similarly to the bride, in order to confuse the evil spirits who wanted to cast bad luck over the marriage. So there you go. Evil spirits and tradition maketh the maid.

Although lots of people make a very big deal out of choosing their wedding party, for the modern, non evil spirit fearing bride, the actual duties of a bridesmaid are pretty limited. They can still be a very useful commodity though as their main function is to assist you with the wedding planning.

They have a few main tasks, and depending on what kind of alternative wedding you’re having these things may or may not even be relevant to you.

1. To be there for the big events like dress shopping, centrepiece choosing and DIY crafternoons.

2. To be emotional supportive in times of pre-wedding crisis because let’s face it, this shit can be stressful.

3. To plan you a kick ass hen do/ bridal shower/ bachelorette party.

4. To wear something pretty, walk down the aisle with you, carry a bouquet and be in the pictures.

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Eight Ways To Take The Stress Out of Wedding Planning

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One of life’s undeniable truths that planning a wedding is stressful. Even the most chilled out person having the most laid back wedding will probably experience a mini wobble at one point during the process. Here are eight things you can do to ensure that the manic moments are as few and far between as possible.

1. Don’t spend more than you can afford

It should go without saying really, but in this “buy now pay later” world it can be all too easy to splash just a little bit too much borrowed cash on your wedding. Money being tight doesn’t mean you can’t have a beautiful and amazing wedding, and in some ways having to cut corners and do things yourself can actually make the day just that bit more personal and special.

Worrying or arguing about money is one of the biggest reasons cited for relationship breakdowns, so please don’t start out married life with a mountain of debt and all that extra horrible stress! Having a fabulous and extravagant day is nice, but having a happy marriage is way more important!

2. Book professionals you trust

A good wedding supplier will not only help you create the most wonderful day, but they’ll also take a lot of stress out of the process. If you’re working with people who you trust implicitly, you won’t need to worry one little bit!

If you have a meeting with a supplier and get a bad vibe, feel like they might be a bit disorganised or you’re worried that you don’t really ‘get’ you and your ideas, listen to your gut and don’t work with them! Don’t worry about offending a supplier by not booking them. If they’re not the right fit you’ll only regret and stress about it later.

3. Accept help

You know all those friends and family members who offer to help? Take them up on their offers!

Sure, making a few DIY things here and there doesn’t sound that stressful but when you still have 120 individually personalised wedding favours, your custom bridesmaid bouquets and your expertly hand-crafted headpiece to finish the night before the wedding, you’ll be thinking very differently!

You are not Wonder Woman and so getting help from the people that offer it is a MUST! Just make sure you give your helpers clear instructions (they aren’t mind-readers) and do something really nice as a thank you for them afterwards. And if moments of bridezilla control freak start to creep in, don’t take it out on the people that are helping you!

4. Stop trying to please everybody

Because it is literally impossible!

If you spend the whole time trying to second guess what this person would approve of, or if you choose things because it might please that family member, you will drive yourself nuts! The sad fact of the matter is that even if you had the most traditional, people-pleasing wedding, there would still be someone that didn’t like something. As Dita said “You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there’s still going to be somebody who hates peaches.”

So save yourself a whole heap of stress and plan a wedding that pleases the two of you. If everyone else likes your choices too then that’s just a lovely bonus!

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