Category Archives: Wedding Planning Advice

Three Vital Things All Couples Should Discuss Before They Get Married

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There’s nothing more exciting than planning your wedding, whether you go for a large lavish affair or a more understated, personal day, there is always plenty to think about and arrange! But with all the excitement and celebration going on around you, it’s very easy to get caught up in the moment and forget that your wedding is about more than just the day itself.

When you’re in a relationship, you obviously get to know each other pretty well. But sometimes it isn’t until you actually get married that you start to consider the more serious stuff. Some of these topics can be uncomfortable to talk about, but making sure you do so is vital if you want your marriage to last the distance.

1. Money

Money is one of the main things that couples fight about. Getting on top of your joint finances before you walk down the aisle, and maybe even establishing a few ground rules, will help you nip some of the disputes that can arise in the bud.

It’s a good idea to sit down and access a free credit report like this one from Experian CreditExpert for each of you, this will allow you to identify any potential problems, and find ways to address them. Its is particularly important that you discuss your individual attitudes to money. Even if you plan to keep a lot of your finances separate, arguments about bills, past debts or one partner’s perceived overspending can cause problems very quickly.

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How to Banish Your Inner Bridezilla

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Planning a wedding is one of the most stressful times in most people’s lives. All that expectation, all those people to please, all that money being spent, wanting to make everything just perfect… It’s no wonder that there are whole reality shows about brides flipping the hell out!

While they might be seriously entertaining to watch from the outside, if you’re not careful it can be all to easy too start to exhibit some of those trademark bridezilla tenancies yourself. Here are some things to think about to help prevent you turning into a terrifying monster,

Realise that people aren’t out to hurt you

If people make snarky comments about something to do with your wedding, please remember that they are not criticising YOU as a person! It can be all to easy to take things to heart when it comes to weddings, especially if you feel you’ve put your all into something. People on the outside don’t always realise this, or know how personal the choices you’re making are.

So if someone pulls a face at the fact your not wearing white, that you’re serving fish n chips instead of a fancy dinner or that you’ve booked an Elvis impersonator as your officiant just shrug it off and realise that although it might not be to their taste, THAT DOESN’T MATTER. It’s your wedding and the fact that they might not pick something doesn’t mean it’s not the right choice for you. Don’t take these things to heart.

Think about other people’s feelings

However it can be VERY EASY to get wrapped up in the “Its my day and what I say goes” mentality. Do not turn into a brat. People want to be there for you but it also doesn’t mean that they need to be at your beck and call 24/7 or that they are your punching bag.

Your friends and family want to celebrate with you (and might have travelled a lot way to do so) so be gracious and kind at all times. Especially think about your parents’ feelings. Remember they have probably been looking forward to this moment since the day you were born so don’t turn your nose up too high at their opinions. Let them down gently if you don’t agree with something they’ve suggested.

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My Top Ten Most Effective Weight Loss Tips for Brides

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Hurray, you’re engaged! Have you started your pre-wedding weight loss regime yet? YOU HAVEN’T!? Oh my goodness, there isn’t a moment to lose –  make sure you read this before it’s too late!

1. Look in the mirror everyday and tell yourself you are beautiful and incredibly blessed to be marrying the love of your life. Even if you don’t believe what you’re saying at first and you feel utterly stupid even thinking about doing it, do it anyway! If you fill you brain (and your mouth!) with positive, lovely words about yourself rather than ugly and nasty ones, you’ll eventually start to believe them.

2. Realise that losing weight will not alter how you feel about yourself long term. Sure, you might get into a smaller size wedding dress, but you’ll still have the same insecurities. Instead of fixating on how you can make yourself thinner, become obsessive about working on your self-esteem and confidence instead. The results will last much longer.

3. There are no quick fixes or miracles cures. As alluring as it might sound, you won’t undo thirty years of bad choices, behaviours and habits in thirty days. So take all those magazine articles promising that shit and throw them in the bin. Or better still, have a sacrificial burning in the back garden.

4. Talk to your fiancé about how you feel. Let them reassure you that they love and want to marry you the way you look NOW (and they will, I promise!)

5. Rapid weight-loss is almost always followed by rapid weight gain. Realise that even if you do lose weight for your wedding you’ll likely end up putting it back on afterwards when you revert back to your normal eating habits. Who wants to look back at their wedding photos and think “Gosh, that doesn’t even look like me”, or “UGH I was so thin then, now I’m just a fat wife”? If you do end up losing weight then putting it back on you’ll only end up feeling bad about yourself again – it’s a vicious circle!

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How to Make Sure Your Guests Enjoy Your Wedding

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People always say that it’s “your day”, and while they are right I always think the best weddings are ones that really take care of the guests too. While I am all for making decisions based on what makes you and your partner happy, I think it’s really nice to consider how your friends and family will enjoy the day.

Here are eight relatively simple things you might consider doing. After all, happy guests will make the day even more magical!

Make transportation easy

Logistics, especially if you are having parts of the day in different locations, can be a stress point for some guests. Particularly if they’re not from the area it might be a nice idea to lay on transport to make sure everyone can get from A to B. For extra bride-points, why not lay on taxis to make sure everyone gets home safely too?

Offer plenty of food options

With so many people having allergies, intolerances and dietary requirements, picking one meal to suit everybody’s needs is most likely an impossibility! To make sure everyone is fed and watered, consider putting on a couple of meal options (you can ask them in your invites if they have any specific requirements or have a couple of options and get them to pick one). You could also have a buffet with lots of different things to try. Most catering companies should be able to rustle up vegetarian, vegan and gluten/ nut free options for specific cases.

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Have an open bar

OK so obviously this is very much budget dependant, but if you really want to hold favour with your guests, have an open bar! The more cost effective option might be to source drinks yourselves from wholesalers or supermarkets rather than using a bar service who will charge you per drink (pro tip: most supermarkets will do awesome bulk buy deals around Christmas so stock up then!)

Surprise them with things they might not have thought of

If you’re having an outdoor wedding, provide blankets or fans for the ceremony (climate depending!), have wellies for a potentially wet wedding and flip flops or ballet pumps on hand if people will be on their feet all night.

If you have guests staying over a ‘hangover kit’ including things like paracetamol, coffee, an eye mask, plasters and a mini toothpaste and toothbrush will also be very much appreciated the next day!

Include extra information on your invitations

The things your guests always want to know are directions and transport options, accommodation choices, things to do in the area (if they’re coming from out of town), dress code and info about the gift list. Make it easy for your nearest and dearest by including all this on an insert sheet inside your invites, or on your wed-site!

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How To Write Your Own Vows

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Writing your own wedding vows has got to be one of the best ways to add a personal spin to your day. Forget the DIY and quirky reception décor, the ceremony is really where it’s at!

Before you put pen to paper, sit down somewhere quiet and answer the following questions. While there are no wrong answers, the ones that you give will be the perfect jumping off point for some really personal vows and will help you if you get stuck!

Why marriage?

Why do you want to be married over just living together? What does being married mean to you? Security? Having a someone on your team? Commitment? Eternal happiness?

Why do you want to write your own vows?

Is it because you want to make it more personal? Maybe you don’t like the traditional vows? Maybe you have something specific you want to say or promise?

How do you want your partner to feel when they hear them?

Happy, excited, emotional, special?

What is something cute, funny or incessantly ‘them’ that they do?

What do they do that no one else does? What about them makes you laugh or smile? What drives you round the bend about them (but you secretly love them for it)!?

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What are your common, quirky interests?

Comic books, music, pets, kids, fashion, Japanese art?! Little references to those interests will make your vows funny, personal and special (“I promise to be the Princess Leia to your Han Solo”, “I promise to never complain about feeding the cat…”)

Do you have any in-jokes?

Your vows are the perfect chance to be 100% yourselves. Do you have any silly in-jokes, words or language that only the two of you use? Do you have pet names for each other?

For example Gareth and I call our anniversary our “marriversary” and instead of asking if the other person wants a cup of tea we say “cup of smee…” as in Captain Hook and Mr Smee… Who the hell knows where they come from but these little colloquialisms will make your vows even more personal!

Was there a defining moment in your relationship?

Have you been through tough times when they were really there for you? Did you have the holiday of a lifetime together? What about the birth of your first child or getting your first fur baby!?

When did you first realise you loved them?

Remind yourself what happened and how you felt. Did you tell them right away or did they say it first?

What five things do you love about them the most?

Pretty self explanatory! Get really specific and try not to be too general. Instead of saying “I love the way you make me laugh”, write down the exact ways that they make you laugh.

Is there something special you want to promise them?

To be their rock… to support their unusual career… to always do the washing up?!

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12 Surprising Ways to Make Your Wedding Budget Stretch Further

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With the average cost of a wedding in the UK allegedly being upwards of £18,000, it’s no surprise that more and more alternative brides and grooms are looking for ways to cut costs.

But how can you create a stunning wedding, on a budget, whilst still having the best day possible? Here are my best wedding budgeting tips!

1. Look beyond the traditional

You need a wedding dress, so you go to a bridal boutique… you need a wedding cake so you go to a bakery… you need flowers… well, you get the idea.

This doesn’t have to be the case though. The British high street has so much to offer! From clothing stores like Coast and Monsoon offering wedding dress lines, Marks and Spencer and Asda doing wedding cakes and cut flowers being available in nearly every supermarket, looking outside the wedding industry bubble for these things can really save you thousands!

2. Buy secondhand

There are lots of websites that are great resources for secondhand wedding bargains. Look on for-sale.co.uk, eBay and preownedweddingdresses.com for pre-used items, many of which are complete steals!

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3. Enter competitions

You’ll be amazed what you could end up with. Wedding photography, wedding planning, cakes, dresses, décor, the works! Wedding blogs and magazines often host contests so make sure you enter as many as you can. Remember someone always has to win!

4. Shop out of season

When looking décor particularly, shop in the sales. After Christmas is a great time to get sparkly, kitschy items and post Halloween is the perfect opportunity to really score black vases and table wear, skull candles and themed candy! Don’t forget about Valentines Day sales too, especially if you want things pink, red or love themed!

5. Buy in bulk

Especially when it comes to the booze! Instead of using a normal bar service where you have to pay per drink, why not stock up at somewhere like Majestic or Costco? Some of these places will also buy back any alcohol that’s not used, and will throw in free glasswear hire for big orders. They always have massive sales after major holidays too.

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