Category Archives: Personal Rambles

The Salvage Project

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Last year, my beautiful friend Jo lost her battle with depression. I miss her so much and not a day goes past when I don’t think about her. Once the dust settled after her death, her boyfriend Chris and I had long chats about him doing an project in her memory, with proceeds going to charity. On Thursday, what would have been Jo’s 31st birthday, he launched The Salvage Project.

Chris explains the project better than I ever could. The ‘About Jo’ section of the website reads, “I refuse to dwell on her illness as it simply didn’t define who she was to anyone. Jo struggled with a variety of mental health issues throughout my time with her. She hid it from everyone with the exception her closest family and I.

For the purpose of narrative and facts, only: Jo took her own life in February 2014.

I saw this project develop whilst she was alive and, for Jo, ‘The Salvage Project’ was an escape. It was a ‘place’ she felt like she had a real purpose and somewhere that she saw a future. I’ll always remember her face when we’d finish a certain part of a logo or website. She’d bounce and clap and squeal with excitement. I remember, she used to uncontrollably waddle around like a penguin when she was excited.”

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“It was ‘her’ project. The Salvage Project gave her a sense of independence and a feeling of self worth. She’d learned to use side effects of her illness, such as attention to detail and perfectionism to create one of the few things she was genuinely proud of. This project contributed to moments where she was truly herself and I’m so grateful I was around to see how it made her feel.

From the start, we always referred to this as ‘The Salvage Project’. The word ‘Salvage’ took a much deeper interpretation when I started revisiting the project, after she passed away. Jo left behind mountains of her work including chests of beautiful jewellery and notes on the direction she wanted to take with business ideas and branding. Stepping into her office at our home was like stepping into a time capsule of her ‘happiest’ times.

To me, ‘Salvage’ refers to the act of scrambling through the aftermath of devastation to find, develop and launch a project she’d worked so hard towards. I wanted to ‘salvage’ my positive memories of her instead of ‘moving on’. I told myself that ‘If I can’t say goodbye to Jo, I want my memories of her to be from when she was at her happiest’.”

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Wanna Be In My Gang? Join The Brand New Rock n Roll Bride Facebook Group!

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I had a brainwave while scrolling through my Facebook newsfeed last night. The Rock n Roll Bride page has always been very active. There’s a great community of nearly 150,000 people on that page who subscribe to see updates about this blog. However, for me, the real draw of Facebook is not to be mindlessly bombarded with updates about the blogs or businesses we follow, it’s a place to connect with our friends… to make new friends… and to share updates about our lives and loves.

For me personally, I spend the majority of my Facebook time either chatting with my besties over private chat, or taking part in the private groups that I’m a member of. I suspect that a lot of you are the same. So I thought, in a moment of madness, wouldn’t it be fun to have a Rock n Roll Bride Facebook group for us all to get to know each other, share wedding plans, ask for and give advice!?

When I was planning my wedding in 2007/8 private forums were hugely helpful. I also made a ton of friends who were on the same journey as me and they made my wedding planning so much easier! However people don’t really use independent forums any more, but everybody uses Facebook!

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Marriversay

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You say that you first spotted me walking down the stairs at the dive bar we both used to frequent. I was just 16, you were 21. You assure me you can remember exactly what I was wearing – a sheer pink top with a denim pencil skirt, and freshly dyed pink tips at the bottom of my hair. “That’s the girl I’m going to marry” you turned to your friend and said. “Yeah right”, I replied when you told me this story, years later. But that is just so typically Gareth – you’re just always right about everything.

I thought you were fit but also ‘too nice’. I was still in my “I want a bad boy” stage – the cannabis smoking, skateboarding, treat ‘em mean, keep ‘em keen type. You were nothing like the other boys I knew.

It took me a while to give you a chance. “Hey, wanna go out for a drink?” came the text on my 18th birthday. I didn’t even remember giving you my number, but you’d saved it all that time. “What do you have to lose?” my friend reassured me, “He was cute and sweet. Go for it!”

We went to play pool. I’m pretty sure you let me win. I remember one of our very first conversations was me asking you if you liked football. You said you hated it and I breathed a huge sigh of relief.

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It’s My Birthday and I’m Giving *You* a Gift!

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Yay it’s my birthday! Although I do feel really bloody old now. I’m THIRRRRTYY freakin’ ONE! OMG I’m totally ancient.

Although this time last year I was definitely struggling with the thought of leaving my 20s behind, the past twelve months have been awesome (hello! I now have a magazine in actual shops!) Nothing actually really changes the older you get, does it? I mean, you’re still you. You still have complete control over what you wear, how you act, and what you do. I have no plans to dye my hair a more respectable colour or to stop dancing in sequins on beaches!

But I digress.

To celebrate the start of my thirty-second year, I wanted to give YOU all a gift by taking a whopping 50% off the price off The Blogcademy Online!

For those of you that don’t know, The Blogcademy is a blogging and business workshop that I’ve been running with Gala Darling and Shauna Haider since 2012. In January this year we launched an online version of the course which is perfect for those of you that can’t travel to an in-person class, or just prefer to learn at their own pace. You can read all about that topics that we cover on our website.

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Valentine’s Day Pressure

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I don’t know about you, but I feel quite a bit of pressure around Valentine’s Day. In the run up everyone starts asking you what your plans are… what you’re getting them… what they’re getting you… and it’s starting to drive me crazy!

Don’t get me wrong, I love the concept of a day dedicated to love, but since when did it become a competition to be the most loved up pair? I even started feeling stressed about what to put on the blog today! This is a website all about weddings and love after all, surely I needed to have something epic and amazing planned? Erm, actually I don’t.

This year, just like every one before it, Gareth and I will not be going out for an overpriced romantic dinner. He won’t buy my flowers and I won’t get him a card. We’ll wish each other a happy Valentine’s Day in the morning, have a few kisses… but nothing out of the ordinary. In private we’re quite a mushy couple as it is (we both say “I love you” to each other at least once a day!) if we stepped it up a notch we both might implode!

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Happy New Year! Rock n Roll Bride: An Overview

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I know many of you have been reading for a while, but with a new year rolling in it’s always nice to start afresh and take the time to reintroduce myself to anyone who might be new around these parts. I published an Idiot’s Guide to Rock n Roll Bride this time last year, so if you haven’t already you should definitely check it out to help you get your bearings. A few things have changed since January 2014 (and not just my hair colour!) so I’m quickly going to go over them now.

Blog schedule

During the week the blog is updated twice daily with lovely real weddingsadvice columns and general inspiration for alternative brides (and grooms!) There’s also a couple of updates over the weekend too.

My posts go up at 8am and 3pm GMT but I’d suggest subscribing via RSS or joining me (and 143,000 others!) on my Facebook page so you never miss a beat. You can also find me on all usual social platforms: Twitter, Instagram and Pinterest.

Over the past few years I’ve also been actively writing about running your own small business in The Green Room area of my site. It’s been a blast and I’ve loved doing it, but I’ve decided to let it take a bit of a back seat for 2015. It’s not being scraped completely, but it will probably be updated a less often. Why? Well, because…

I’m publishing a magazine!

I am now the Editor in Chief of the UK’s newest wedding magazine! Over the past three years I’ve written and self-published an annual magazine, but it was recently picked up by Giraffe Media (who also publish Wedding Ideas Magazine) who are putting my baby into REAL LIFE SHOPS.

The bi-monthly mag costs £4.99 and will now be sold in WHSmiths, Morrisons and independent newsagents (with more to be added soon). For my readers that aren’t in the UK, or those of you that would prefer it to be delivered straight to your door, you’ll be able to buy a subscription online SOON. The details of this are still being finalised but I’ll share the link with you the second I have it – I promise! This is all HUGE and incredibly exciting and I can’t bloody wait for you to see it. Issue 1 is in stores on January 8th!!!!

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Here’s the cover of issue 1. Isn’t it AWESOME?! (If I do say so myself!)

Oh and there may well be a launch party at some point too! Would you want to come?!

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But that’s not all (yes, I’m a busy gal)! Alongside my besties Gala Darling and Shauna Haider, I am one of ‘the headmistresses’ of The Blogcademy. It’s a two-day workshop which helps aspiring bloggers and small business owners harness the power of the internet to turn their business dreams into a reality!

Since our launch in 2012 we’ve taught nearly 1000 people how to get started, make waves, live their passion and MAKE MONEY doing what they love… and we ain’t stopping yet!

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