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A Rock n Roll Blogiversary & Five Little Lessons for Aspiring Bloggers

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I don’t remember the exact date I started blogging. My first site got deleted in a moment of technical clumsiness sometime late in 2008, so my earliest posts are no longer on the internet. I’m actually rather pleased that my initial foray into writing about weddings is gone forever though because, man, that shit was embarrassingly bad! I do know that it was sometime during October 2007 that I registered my domain, which makes Rock n Roll Bride SEVEN years old this month and a relative dinosaur in the wedding blogging world!

While looking back is hilarious and mortifying in equal measure, it’s also a wonderful time capsule and a reminder of how far I’ve come. The (lack of) writing skill, the questionable photo choices, the terrible formatting and attempts at ‘branding’. But it’s all part of what got me to where I am today. Not having a clue, bumbling through, excitedly posting things at all hours of the day and night because I was just so damn enthusiastic about weddings!

While condensing everything I’ve discovered about blogging into one article would be impossible, here are five little lessons that I hope will inspire aspiring bloggers.

1. You have to be yourself

“Be yourself, everyone else is taken”. That overly quoted line by Oscar Wilde is a cliché for a reason. As with everything in life, you have to be yourself when it comes to blogging. Forget about trying to be the next whoever, be loud and proud and focus on being you!

People will love you for it. OK so some people might not, but screw them! Trying to be something you’re not is bloody exhausting, it’s much more fun to be unashamedly weird. Plus, the people who think like you do will powerfully connect with your blog because it speaks to them specifically. It’s much easier to write about things you genuinely like, and for people that feel the same way you do. Never try to be all things to all people, its a recipe for disaster.

2. Focus on your readers

Last week I was named Best Alternative Wedding Blog at the Wedding Blog Awards in London. In my unrehearsed, champagne-fuelled speech, I thanked the industry for embracing me, but most of all I wanted to have a massive gush about my readers. “Without them”, I said, “I’d be working in McDonalds”.

Without readers you don’t have a blog at all, so they should be your top priority. When you start to write something, always ask yourself if your readers will get something out of it. Is it helpful or entertaining (preferably both), or is it just something that’s promoting you?

If your content helps people they won’t be able to stop themselves coming back for more.

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50 Husband and Wife Date Night Ideas

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Just because you’re married, doesn’t mean date night should go out the window. I actually think it’s more important to make sure to keep it up once you’re hitched. It’s all too easy for life to get in the way and to forget just how wonderful spending time together is.

Here are 50 fun and affordable date night ideas for all you lovebirds out there.

1. The supermarket challenge (aka set a spend limit, separate and go and buy each other fun gifts!)

2. Cook dinner for each other

3. Wine tasting

4. Go for a romantic picnic

5. Stargaze

6. Make something together

7. Go for brunch

8. Go to a museum or gallery

9. Hop on the train and see where it takes you

10. Model village!

11. Set up a scavenger hunt

12. At home movie night

13. Take a class together

14. Paint your bedroom

15. Go thrift shopping

16. Jumble sale!

17. Watch the sunrise or sunset

18. Go to the beach

19. Walk the dog together (if you don’t have one, just walk!)

20. Play video games together

21. Get up early and go to a car boot

22. Go bowling

23. Ice skating!

24. Play tourist in your own city

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Rock n Roll Bride Magazine Is Coming To A Store Near You!

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Last week I announced that I am going to stop producing new issues of the Rock n Roll Bride print magazine so that I can work on other exciting opportunities. Since then I’ve been flooded with messages from readers telling me how sad they are to read that news. Well, I’ve got a small, teensy confession to make… I haven’t been entirely honest with you.

The truth is I’ve been having exciting, scary, and every-emotion-in-between meetings with the amazing team at Giraffe Media, the publishing company behind Wedding Ideas Magazine. I am more than a little bit delighted to tell the world that Rock n Roll Bride Magazine will be hitting UK newstands in January!

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Goodbye San Francisco, Hello Chicago!

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Hello beautiful! This update comes to you from a very chilly Chicago, where I’m sat in my Air B&B digs with Gala and Shauna, hiding from the weather and planning our adventures in this brand new city.

Last weekend we taught out first Blogcademy workshop of the year in San Francisco. We had such an awesome time and I loved every single one of these girls who came to spend their weekend with us. Full report heading your way soon of course!

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Six Things I’ve Learnt in Six Years of Marriage

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Tomorrow is Gareth and my six year wedding anniversary. Instead of writing yet another “Oh I love him so much, he is my rock, without him I am nothing…” blog post (It’s true by the way but… well… you know… snoooooze) I thought I’d share six of the most important lessons I’ve learnt in these six short years.

1. Marriage does change things

For the better of course! When we were first married, nothing felt different. We lived together beforehand and, if I’m honest, I struggled to see what the big fuss was about. But after being married for a few years I did start to notice some changes… in both of us.

The safety and security you feel when you’re married is like nothing else I’ve ever experienced. Knowing that this person has chosen to be with you, and only you, for the rest of their life is quite a powerful feeling. The bond you have post-marriage is, for us anyway, so much stronger. The trivialities of the everyday don’t really matter as much, and any arguments don’t have the same devastating effect. We’re both ultimately in agreement and it’s us against the world – forever.

2. When in doubt, the relationship always comes first

I’ve given this advice to so many of my friends over the past few years and now I impart it to you! Whatever the issue, whatever the drama or trauma or stress, always remember that your relationship comes first. Period.

If you’re stressing about something external (like money, your job or a family drama), make sure you’re on the same team and you tackle it together. The worst thing you can do is shut them out, or worse still, blame them for it. Even if you don’t vocalise that blame, it can be all to easy to think things like “well if she did this differently…” or “if only he wouldn’t stand in my way…”

IT CAN BE SO HARD not to do this, but as long as you know that they are your priority, no matter what, then you won’t go far wrong.

This might sound frightfully un-feminist, but if Gareth had a problem with how much travel I was doing with The Blogcademy, for example, then I wouldn’t be doing it. He comes first. I love my job, but I love my husband more.

3. Your house is both of your homes

We have a rule in our house that neither of us (ahem, it’s really aimed at me) is allowed to buy anything ‘for the house’ without the other person’s consent. As someone who loves an impulse buy, this was difficult for me to come to terms with!

But this isn’t just my house – it’s his home too. Although our tastes might be quite different, it’s important that we agree on the things that decorate and furnish the space we both live in.

As much as I might dream of painting our front door pink and covering our dining table in glitter perspex (!!) that just isn’t going to fly with him. While his excessive wiring (it really is everywhere!) might drive me crazy, he did put up bright pink wallpaper up in our kitchen for me, so I can’t really complain!

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OMG I’m 30 so there’s 30% off Crown and Glory Headpieces – Today Only!

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I’ve been dreading it for months, but today I woke up a thirty year old. I almost can’t believe it! It’s true what they say though, time sure does fly when you’re having fun!

It feels like just yesterday that I met Gareth (aged 17), we started dating (aged 18), we got married (24), I started this blog (24), I produced a print magazine (27), we launched The Blogcademy (28) and I designed my first headpiece collection (29) ..! Needless to say I’m pretty damn proud of how much I’ve achieved so far.

Talking of achievements, a lot of you have been asking how I got on with my 30 before 30 list. Well I actually nearly did them all (OK so I didn’t read a book or manage to launch my digital product just yet… it’s coming soon!) But today Gareth and I are going on a spa day AND he just surprised me with a birthday trip to Barcelona TOMORROW so I will have achieved my “go on a random adventure” wish too!!

Now, I certainly couldn’t let this momentous occasion go by without a little gift for you guys as well. So, for 24 hours only, you can get any headpiece from my collection with Crown and Glory at a whopping 30% discount!  Simply enter discount code ‘happybirthdaykat’ at the checkout. Valid until 7.59 am GMT tomorrow, (Wednesday 8th April).

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