This elephant themed, vegan love-fest wedding makes me so happy! Abigail & Zak actually got married last October so this wedding was really a celebration of their love and partnership involving all their friends & family.
“We wanted it to have a theme of elephants, loyalty, and compassion” they told me. !That’s why we had the paintings of our parents there and also why our “favors” were gifts bought from heifer international (bees and trees) in our guests’ honor. The most important part of our vision was that we were already married last October, so we didn’t want to pretend this was something it wasn’t. We wanted it to be a celebration of our partnership, and our friend who introduced us was our celebrant at the party. We did our vows in the past tense, and most importantly, we wrote and read our marriage manifesto about what partnership and marriage means to us.”
“We had an all vegan snacks and dessert buffet (we wanted to be able to eat everything at our own wedding!) we used as many local products (flowers, beer, etc) as possible. Our cake was homemade by a good friend. We had no strangers there, which was important. Friends catered, photographed and bartended.”
“Since between us we’ve lost three parents, rather than have photographs and candles (which seemed a little funeral-y) we had a good friend who is a local artist do portraits of our parents so that they would be recognized there, but in a more lighthearted way. We also incorporated heirlooms and special items from our grandparents and parents in the decorations.”
Music, tattoos and 40’s/50’s rockabilly provided the inspiration for Laura & Scott’s gorgeous wedding. Laura looked every bit the rockabilly queen in her Avalon from Dolly Couture skirt and top, teamed with lace gloves from ASOS and leopard print shoes from Mary Jane Shoes which were a bargain at just £15!
The tables were named after all their favourite rock bands – Kiss, Whitesnake, Guns n Roses, Alice Cooper, Thin Lizzy, Iron Maiden, AC/DC, Van Halen and the top table was The Ronnie James Dio table. For a really personal and fun touch their favours were mini cupcake lip glosses for the girls and polystyrene gliders for the boys. They also had dishes of haribo rings and hearts on each table (yum!)
The couple diy’ed all their stationary – in a vintage tattoo style. The boy’s place names had flaming dice and the girl’s had pink nautical stars. They made the table planner with a big piece of MDF covered in a tattoo print fabric from Etsy. They had friend make the cake in the same tattoo theme.
“I walked down the aisle to Tom Petty – Here Comes My Girl. We signed register to Kiss – I Want You and Stevie Wonder – Signed, Sealed, Delivered and we both walked out to Gonna Fly Now from Rocky. First dance was Pulp – Something Changed, closely followed by Kiss – Lovegun” Laura concluded. “We’re both huge classic rock fans and I’ve always been a fan of 40’s/50’s style. We’re both geeks at heart. I’m not against any traditional weddings but we knew it wasn’t for us. We both thought our wedding day should be about our love for each other and that love includes all the things that make us who we are.”
Finally, Laura and her bridesmaids performed “Kiss – I Was Made For Loving You” – a dance routine that they had perfectedon the hen do (bachelorette party) Be sure to check out the video after the ‘jump’
Ooh what a lovely sparkly rockabilly wedding! Lucia & Pete got married at Arundel Town Hall, West Sussex which was followed by an outdoorsy reception at the bride’s sisters camp site – Billycan Camping, Arundel – which specialises in bringing back traditional camping, with bell tents, safari lounge tents and Teepees! “We wanted to create a family orientated wedding” Lucia told me. It was held in my hometown, my Mum did our photos, my Dad made the rings, my Mother in law made the cake and the whole thing was held at my sisters campsite. Fun, laughter and a relaxed environment was important to us. We’d been to so many weddings where we felt on edge (due to not knowing everyone) and we didn’t want that from ours. It was a buffet lunch that was solely Vegetarian and the tables were decorated with gold sweetie bags with fake tattoos beside them- these were red hearts with a scroll across- reading “Pete & Lucia” something that went down amazingly well with the children.”
One of the things that really stood out in your survey responses was that a lot of you wanted more Rock n Roll same sex weddings. Well my dears, you ask and I deliver! I have actually been dying to feature Linsay & Amanda’s wedding for a while now but with wedding season being in full flow I have been a trifle busy! Patience is a virtue though my little kittens and I think you’ll realise that wait was worth it when you see these two kick ass chicks!
With people coming to their wedding from the UK and The States (Linsay is English and Amanda is from America) the couple decided on a kitsch Royal theme with red, white & blue as their colours (to reflect both flags) as well as for a bit of fun all round! “We just wanted to have fun with the theme but also sort of add a bit of camp irony to what was a fabulous lesbian wedding” Amanda told me. “I love the photo of the Fergie and Andrew choc tin! But seriously, it was a profoundly special day especially not only cause it was our wedding but because civil partnerships haven’t been legal for that long and really lesbians need to find a new narrative when it comes to weddings. No More White Suits! You can both wear dresses and both be ‘the bride’ and balance it off well without either one having to feel overshadowed. And now Linz and I are wives for lives! How cool is that!?”
Both brides wore dresses by Candy Anthony – although it wasn’t planned! They both actually picked their dresses completely seperately.
There is always a lot of chatter around blog land about details details details. Photographers are obsessed with getting couples with detail-heavy weddings so that the blogs and magazine will want to feature them. While this is true (after all wedding blogs and mags are primarily read by brides-to-be who want to see weddings with ideas they can steal for their own big day) do you ever think that this obsession to have a ‘blog-worthy’ detail heavy wedding might be a little excessive?
I’m not one to slag aaaanybody’s wedding off but I do see some weddings circulating around blog land that just seem so…well…contrived. Like a circus almost. Like a made-for-blogs-wedding-circus. The results are pretty much always gorgeous and inspiring but do you ever look at weddings like that and feel depressed or inadequate about your own wedding?
I wonder sometimes if a lot of us have actually forgotten the whole point of the wedding in the first place. Two people, in love standing there saying “I Do”. That’s it. That’s what’s important. Lets not forget that.
As many of you will already know, I like to pride myself and my blog on individuality and posting some of the best, exclusive and new weddings out there. However rules are made to be broken right?! I actually saw and loved Alicia & Jack’s wedding a while back on another wedding blog (I even included it in a Thursday Treats post) but when their videographer Thomas of Vantage Point Films sent me the link to their gorgeous video (which hasn’t been seen elsewhere) I couldn’t help but as if I could share some of the photographs taken by Carla Ten Eyck Photography too. Sound good?
“For most wedding vendors, a couple like Alicia and Jack reminds us why we do what we do” Thomas began. “Just when you’re thinking ‘another day, another wedding’, they infuse their cool style into the day, and put the ‘art’ back in ‘artist’ for you. They were hip, they were classy, and two of the sweetest people you’d ever want to work with. Of course it helps when, as a videographer, you get to shadow photographer Carla Ten Eyck all day, as she navigates her hometown of Hartford, CT. It makes my job a lot easier when the photographer is on the top of their game.”
I then got to speak to the bride, Alicia who explained that unlike a lot of ‘girlie girls’ she had never been one to fantasise about her wedding day. She is sooo the perfect Rock n Roll Bride inspiration! “Unlike many of my girly-girl friends, I hadn’t fantasized about my wedding day for my entire life and I certainly had no idea of what I wanted the dress to look like. I tried to go through the motions of trying dresses at the bridal shops- you know, the whole bridal circus…. but as soon as I discovered this Betsey Johnson dress I knew I’d found it. I’d been admiring and wearing her fashion since I was thirteen. This dress just fit me perfectly, in more ways than one.”