Thea and Cody both struggle with anxiety, so not wanting to be the centre of everyone’s attention, they decided to elope on their own. They had a small reception for their friends and family a month later.
“We knew we wanted our wedding to be small”, began the bride. “When we found out that we could have our ceremony at the House on the Rock, a location mentioned in one of our favourite books (American Gods by Neil Gaiman) and the site of our first vacation together, we knew it was the perfect spot.”
“We wanted our wedding to be a true reflection of who we are as individuals and as a couple. We focused on what we love about one another, and the promises that we knew we could keep. We also bucked the system a bit by only letting 12 other people in on our secret before the ceremony, and 9 of them were invited. We only invited our very closest friends and family, because we didn’t want to feel like we were there to impress or entertain anyone. I think what made our wedding unique was our dedication to making it ours. We only included the things that were important to us, and we ignored the rest.”
Maria and Graeme wanted their wedding to reflect what was most important to them – family and having fun. They also wanted their day to have minimal fuss and stress and planned the whole thing in just eight weeks!
“Although we got engaged on NYE 2011, and had a lot of ideas, they all fell by the wayside last year when my brother died suddenly”, Maria explained. “He would have played a very big role on our special day, and it was very hard coming to terms with him not being with us. However in August last year, we decided to just go for it. We saw the venue on August 17th, and were married there on October 18th!”
The wedding took place at The Tithe Barn at Symondsbury Estate. “We managed to do tons of DIY in that time”, she continued. “We made the button bouquets, cake, buttonholes, spray painted bottles for the flowers, place cards, table plan, order of the day, and music playlists. We had a lot of help from our very brilliant and talented friends too. I loved making my own bouquet and it also saved us money. Not only did it feel like a massive achievement, but it was lovely to carry something so special and unique. We collected buttons from friends and family (including some from my late brother) as well as lots of pink ones from eBay!”
Patty and Dani were married on their 13th anniversary at Château de la Grande Riedera in Switzerland. “The Inspiration for our wedding was to spend a relaxed day with our family and friends, where everyone would feel comfortable”, Patty began. “The original plan was a quiet BBQ somewhere close to a lake, but that seemed to be a very difficult task. Somehow the venue, budget and date never fit together. As that didn’t work out, we looked for something different and found the Chateau de la Grande Riedera, which was perfect. We loved that all parts of the wedding could take place at the same location, which made it a very relaxed atmosphere. It also allowed us to organise the caterer we wanted to have which brought us back at least parts of the BBQ idea.”
“Compared to a typical Swiss wedding ours was probably very different”, she continued. “We had an outdoor ceremony with a friend of ours officiating, and a rockabilly band playing. This actually influenced the retro style of the whole day. I had seen so many great weddings featured on blogs like Rock n Roll Bride and wanted to do so many different things, none of which seemed to fit together. However in the end it all came together great!”
The couple did a few simple bits of DIY including the invitations and the tissue paper flowers. “We designed all of our cards on our own. It was important for us to do this because we both like to design and this way we knew that they would turn out exactly as we wanted them. We also had plastic flamingos everywhere! I knew all along that I wanted to have flamingos at our wedding. Unfortunately, they all seemed too expensive until I found some on eBay about two weeks before the wedding!”
Ali and Gem are both into the arts, so having their wedding at the groom’s place of work, The Royal Shakespeare Theatre was the perfect choice! They wanted a wedding that reflected both of them and avoided tradition and trends at all costs! The groom actually sent me the most amazing email while they were planning their wedding (which I couldn’t help but share!) so it really is a thrill to see how their wedding turned out!
“From the very start we were inspired by Rock n Roll Bride”, they began. “Through the blog we could see that we wouldn’t be chastised for having a wedding that didn’t fit or didn’t follow a specific structure or tradition. We didn’t want tradition and grey monkey suits, but we didn’t want to be drinking out of jam jars and buying hipster centrepieces from vintage car boots either. We didn’t want to think about what cake ‘suits our personality’ or what colour theme to go for, so we just took it all one step at a time and agreed on everything together.”
“The question we most found ourselves asking was ‘Why?’ – ‘why would we leave a sugared almond for our friends?’, we hate them (the almonds, not our friends), the guests hate them, why would we do that? Why would you have a three course meal? We’re real foodies but we wanted to spend our day talking to our guests not watching them, from the back of a room, suckling on an amuse bouche. Once you start asking ‘why?’, a lot of the parts of a wedding just seem kind of odd. We didn’t want to find ‘alternative’ options to the traditional aspects of a wedding, we just scrapped things we didn’t like.”
If a long wedding gown isn’t your thing, then don’t worry, there are so many options for short dress lovers!
There are so many reasons to be a short wedding dress bride…
Having one means you can show off your fabulous shoes
Retro rainy wedding
Or your even more fabulous tights!
1950s rockabilly wedding (the tights are from Amazon by the way!)
And you won’t get caught in any wayward foliage!
Unpretentious family-focused wedding
You can add as much sparkle as you like without it being over the top
CYYK, comic book and superhero wedding
And twirl away to your heart’s content!
Retro cartoon wedding
For Roxane and Pierre, a relaxed homespun wedding was perfect. Their small ceremony was held at city hall, and they hosted the reception in the bride’s house. “Pierre and I met in Qatar, where we both work as airline pilots”, the bride began. “Everything happened very fast and after eight months together we decided to move in together. The only problem was that you are not allowed to live together without being married in Qatar so we decided to get married!”
“We organised everything in 6 months”, wrote the bride. “We wanted to do a picnic in a field very close to my house in Belgium, because it’s a place that I love and we both love nature. For that reason, everything had to be simple, especially as we both live so far away. Our priorities were having our families and close friends there, and lots of cheese, wine and champagne!”
Roxane wore two beautiful lace dresses, both super affordable. Her long sleeved ceremony dress was, unbelievably, from H&M and her reception one was from Lookbook Store. “I wanted a short dress that looked simple”, she said. “I found one in H&M that I liked, but at first it didn’t feel like ‘the one’, and then I found another one on Lookbook Store. I loved both of them and I didn’t know which one to wear so in the end I wore both!”