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Rainy Rustic Wedding at Home with a Real Rainbow!

Trina and Jessica wanted their wedding to be rustic, honest and personal so did a lot of DIY projects and picked Trina’s parent’s home as their venue.

“Every aspect of the wedding was personal,” explained Jessica. “From homemade signs for the tables and mum-in-law planting flowers around the house, to relatives making our bar and chuppa. Our close friend married us and our caterer was a personal friend as well. Everything had a personalised stamp on it and it made it really special.”

Although they planned for an outdoor ceremony, it rained heavily meaning they had to move it into the marquee. However despite the weather, the ceremony was the couple’s favourite part of the day. “Our ceremony was performed by our close friend,” said Trina. “It was short and simple and we wrote our own vows to make it special. It was down pouring by the time the wedding was supposed to start and everyone was on their phones tracking the patterns of the storm to decide if we should have the ceremony outside or under the tent! In the end we decided rain or shine it didn’t matter, we were getting married to the person we love so rain come at us! The moment we said ‘I do’ was our favourite part. It felt like finally being able to breathe knowing we’d made it to that moment. We were finally married!”

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The Last Five Years in LGBTQ Wedding Planning

Photo: Megan Melia

To celebrate Pride Month in the US, Kate Schaefer, founder and editor of the fantastic LGBTQ wedding planning resource, H&H Weddings, is here to discuss how she’s seen LGBTQ planning change over her past five years in the industry.

The year was 2012. I was a 20-something-year-old intern, sitting at my desk in Brooklyn, essentially rolling my eyes at the Huffington Post piece I was reading. This bride-to-be was venting about how she, as a lesbian, had no resources for planning her wedding. “This is nuts”, I thought. And then I started doing some research because, let’s be honest, I wasn’t actually doing anything else.

As it turns out, the only part about the situation that was nuts was the fact that the bride-to-be was 100% right. The only same-sex/LGBTQ+ wedding resources looked like they had been designed in 1992. I decided to change that.

At the time, my knowledge of weddings was based off of the three or so episodes of Say Yes To The Dress that I had seen. I didn’t know what I was doing, but I was determined to get something going. LGBTQ+ folks deserved a beautiful, useful blog where they could go to see themselves, not just a straight wedding blog that occasionally featured a Ken & Ken/Barbie & Barbie-like couple.

Since 2012, I’ve seen many changes in the LGBTQ+ wedding space. People (on all parts of the spectrum) are choosing to make their ceremonies more and more personal. Five years ago, it often felt like a couple was just taking the hetero wedding mold and plugging themselves into the equation, which meant that, frequently, one member of the couple ended up being labelled the ‘bride’ and the other the ‘groom’ despite the fact that that (obviously) wasn’t the case.

The ceremony

We’ve featured hundreds of weddings on H&H Weddings and we’ve seen couples walk with each other down aisles, we’ve seen circular ceremony set ups, we’ve seen couples walk down aisles, simultaneously, towards each other. One of my favourite ever ceremonies we shared was Zoe & Lil’s outdoor ceremony. They set up a circle around them so that, while they said their vows, they were surrounded by friends and family!

 We’ve seen people dance and cry and laugh while walking down the aisle. We’ve seen people write their own vows and even sing their vows. The long and the short of it? Do whatever the fuck you want. It’s your wedding. No one knows your love like you, why not express it how it feels best?

The wedding party

We have also seen big changes in wedding party set ups. We’ve shared weddings with huge wedding parties and no wedding parties. We have seen wedding parties made up of all gender identities (straight couples, take note on this one! Why would a bride’s brother stand on her husband’s side of the wedding party?!)

The outfits

One of my favourite ways that couples get creative these days is attire! I used to feel like I saw a lot of uncomfortable brides in dresses because that’s what they felt like they were supposed to do. It was as if you had to options as a bride: 1. Wear a dress or 2. Wear an ill-fitting Men’s Warehouse suit that was frumpy.

Now, there are a ton of suiting companies that cater to people of all gender identities and expressions such as Bindle & Keep, Kipper Clothiers, Duchess Clothiers and Sharpe Suiting (just to name a few!). Another favourite of ours is House of Ollichon. They do wedding attire without a single dress in sight! Such a breath of fresh air! As well, couples are wearing a plethora of colours, jumpsuits, rompers, suiting combinations, shorts, dresses, skirts, really, whatever makes them feel their best, which is exactly what we like to see.

Photo: Rachelle Derouin Photography

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Faerie and Woodland Nymph Fantasy Wedding

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Dear internet, prepare to lose your collective shit over Mckenzie and Morgan’s beyond incredible, one-of-a kind, totally beautiful faerie/ woodland nymph inspired October wedding!

When you look at weddings day in, day out like I do, it can be all too easy to get a bit blinded by it all… But then a wedding like this one comes along, smacks you right in the middle of your forehead and forces you to pay attention! I am so excited to share this wedding with you today and I don’t think it’ll take long for you to realise why.

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The wedding took place at Sacred Mountain Ranch in Julian, California. “Our wedding theme was an ‘Autumn Fantasy Woodland Wedding'”,  began Mckenzie. “Think Lord of The Rings, fairies, satyrs. It was also LARP (Live Action Role Playing) inspired. We actually had a sword duel during the reception dinner.”

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Witchy and Romantic Pagan Wedding in Scotland

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For their August wedding Laura and Holly wanted a day that felt like them, so that meant witchy, romantic, feminine, pagan and inspired by nature. They were influenced by Stevie Nicks and the film Practical Magic. They even walked down the aisle to the theme song!

Their ceremony was one of the most important moments to them both. It took place at Cottiers Theatre, a converted church in Glasgow. “Our officiant was Gerrie Douglas-Scott.  She and her wife, Susan, were the first lesbian couple to be married in Scotland when equal marriage became legal. This was our main reason for picking her as she was able to pass on the baton. Susan came to say hello to both of us after the ceremony too.”

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“We had a humanist ceremony that focused on us. It was very personal. Our celebrant asked us to write down three things we loved about each other which she read on the day. We had a handfasting using four different cords to bind our hands together that represented the elements (red: fire, blue: water, green: earth and white: air). Our bridesmaid, Gillian, did a reading of a Celtic blessing.”

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Canal Boats, Cocktails and a Lot of DIY

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Laura and Lauryn’s wedding was inspired by their loved ones. They had their friends help them wherever they could, but not in traditional roles. One friend made Laura’s dress, another made Lauryn’s and lots of others helped out with decorations.

“We didn’t have bridesmaids or people in traditional roles” explained Lauryn, “but we liked the idea of highlighting a few people who went the extra mile for us so we named our house cocktails after them! We had the Bekgarita, the Hanna-lol Spritz, the Cosmic Emelie and the Papprihinia.”

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“My dress was made by my best friend Bek who works in fashion” she continued. “I drove her absolutely insane talking about ‘the vision’ of what I had in mind. I think ‘the vision’ will haunt her forever! In all seriousness though, I can’t underestimate how much she did for me and how special she made me feel. I’ll probably never again have the opportunity to own something so beautiful, that was one-of-a-kind and made just for me.”

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Disco Jelly Car Wedding at Burning Man

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Bunny and Sarah were married at Burning Man Festival. Their theme was based on their Disco Jelly Art Car that they made for their camp. “Getting married at Burning Man was very unusual!” said Bunny. “The environment and elements, such as heat, wind and dust (sometimes all at the same time!), made the wedding very different and challenging. During the ceremony a dust storm came, but we didn’t thinking about pausing for a second. It made our moments very raw and unforgettable.”

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The couple were married in front of a giant spinning heart, “For our ceremony location we chose an art piece in the shape of a spinning heart made by Eric Zann” explained Sarah. “The ceremony itself was very relaxed and our friends made it even better than we ever imagined. One of our friends was our officiant, another friend played the guitar, and another one recited his speech in German, even though no one understood German!”

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