A lot of you will no doubt remember Whit and Colby’s ‘Non Wedding’ shoot by the incredible Brooke Davis. It was one of my most popular wedding features of all time, and weirdly, sparked quite a bit of debate. But to those that said it was an irrelevant shoot with no real meaning to actual brides and grooms – today I present to you Alicia and Phill. After seeing those images not only booked Brooke to shoot their elopement, but went for their very own ‘Non Wedding’ theme – a secret ceremony and a party in their own back garden. Inspiration is everywhere.
Having a small and personal wedding was important to these two and they only invited people that mean a lot to them and their relationship to take part in the day. ”We were inspired by Courtney Love and Kurt Cobain’s wedding in Hawaii and of course the ‘Non Wedding’ shoot by Brooke!” Alicia began. “Everyone that was invited have either lived with us at one point or was there for the hardest parts of our relationship.”
“We had a secret ceremony. It was a Wednesday and we didn’t really care at all about traditions, we just wanted to be true to who we are as a couple, and not make a big stressful deal about it. We just wanted to peaceful say our vows without any nervousness of who would hear them.”
When logistically it just wasn’t possible for Ann & Martin to marry on Halloween as they’d originally planned, they still knew they wanted their wedding to have a spooky gothic theme. The whole day was heavily influenced by Tim Burton.
“We never gave up the thought about having a Tim Burton theme for our wedding”, wrote the bride, “even when doing it on Halloween wasn’t possible for us. I just love the spirit and all his movies. I am a Rock n Roll girl and I am crazy to my bone. I wanted this wedding to be weird, classy, beautiful, strange, unusual, happy, in good spirit and all about us and who we are.”
“I grew up with Tim Burton movies, I take inspiration from him in my work and in my life. I like his way of seeing things and I like the craziness around him. I was born on October the 29th so I have always loved Halloween, pumpkins and Jack Skellington. I have seen Edward Scissorhands about a thousand times. Tim Burton’s Alice in Wonderland is so great and I get really happy when I think about Beetlejuice. Corpse Bride is sad but also romantic so I am a real sucker for that movie as well. Then we have my love for rock.music. I like going to concerts to rock my head off and my over all style is very Rock n Roll, steampunk and industrial.”
Happy Monday you lovely little critters – have I got a wedding to start this week off with a bang or what!?
Unusually I was actually submitted this wedding by the groom and via twitter because his gorgeous bride, Holly, was nervous about doing so. Er, girl, are you KIDDING me?! I’m dying over your wedding. The comic book, superhero and geek chic radness is just too good. This is one of those weddings that I genuinely wish I’d been invited to!
Holly & Anthony were married at The Electric Cinema in Birmingham. With the groom being a massive movie buff, it really was the perfect choice. For their reception they headed to Bar Room Bar which they had booked at the last minute. Their original reception venue went out of business four months before the wedding so the Bar Room really pulled out all the stops to make their day perfect.
“I proposed to my now husband while more than a little bit tipsy outside of the bar that I worked in with a ring made out of a straw!” explained Holly. “I’m so glad he didn’t think I was joking (!) and who can beat the romance of getting engaged in front of two burly doormen!?”
Anna & Mirko wanted a simple wedding with tons of personality. The day was held at Fallon & Byrne, a restaurant in the heart of Dublin.
“We met 12 years ago and we never talked much about marriage until two years ago”, wrote the bride. “I was getting dressed one Sunday morning and we were chatting away when he just came and out and said ‘Do you want to marry me?’ I didn’t realise it was a genuine question and replied ‘Ah yeah why not’. He grabbed me and we start jumping around in a circle laughing. Mirko was shouting ‘We are getting married!’ and I was like ‘Oh Really? Yay!!’ It was so funny and this situation sums us up really.”
“We were so relaxed about the whole situation and just wanted to keep it small with close family and friends”, she continued. “We managed to arrange everything and enjoy the organising stress-free. I think this helped us to get the most out of the day and enjoy every second.”
The ceremony was particularly important to this romantic pair. “The ceremony was held in Fallon & Byrne at 3.30, so everybody was in the room waiting for me at 3pm. I was a little late so didn’t really have to much time to think or get nervous. When I entered the room and looked at Mirko and all our family and friends my heart skipped a beat. It was so surreal and very emotional. It’s a memory I know I’ll never forget. The day went so fast like a dream, we really felt so over whelmed with happiness.”
I have a love/hate relationship with the BBC Three show Don’t Tell the Bride. On the one hand, I love a voyeuristic nosey at other people’s weddings (hello! Wedding blogger criteria number one) but on the other, the obvious sensationalism of shows like this can often get a bit much. I usually sit watching the show wondering if the groom really plans the whole thing himself and if the real truth of the matter is that the production company tell him exactly what to do so they can have the usual drama that seems to follow the programme around. But mostly I wonder if the brides really have no say on ANYTHING. I mean surely you’d give him a few subtle hints beforehand, right?!
A few weeks ago I was contacted by wedding photographer Alistair Veryard who has just shot a ‘Don’t Tell the Bride’ wedding. He asked me if, after it was aired, I would like to blog it too. After seeing a few sneak peeks and I instantly knew I loved the wedding, but I said that I had one condition – that I could ask the couple all those nagging questions that I know everyone else wants to know the answers to too.
So guys, meet Mike & Becky who’s wrestling themed wedding was aired on Don’t Tell The Bride last night.
Hi Mike & Becky! So, how did you get on Don’t Tell The Bride & why on Earth did you want to do it?
We were sat at home watching the show. I remarked that I could do better than the guy on it so Becky picked up her laptop and after a quick Google, found an application form. They were in the last week of casting so we didn’t hold out much hope but applied anyway. We got an email back the next day asking us to go to their offices for a interview.
The question everyone seems to want to know the answer to is: Did you discuss any ‘ground rules’ about what you wanted/didn’t want beforehand?
It was in our contract that we don’t plan anything in advance at all. If the production team suspected that we might have discussed anything or made any plans, then those plans would have to be scrapped. Plus it all happened so quickly that we wouldn’t have had time to make any plans, even if we wanted to. Becky loves surprises so it worked out better to just not plan anything in advance together anyway.
Did you get any criteria from the producers or crew about what you should pick or how you should go about planning the wedding? There always seems to be a drama over something the groom chooses!
I wasn’t given a ‘criteria’ per-say but everything had to be booked through the production team and all shops I wanted to visit or services I wanted to use had to be cleared for filming by the team first.
A photo shoot featuring the Rock n Roll Bride planning notebooks!? Oh yes that’s one sure-fired way to get my attention!
“We styled the whole shoot ourselves using items from eBay (and of course the Rock n Roll Bride notebook,” photographer Jaye of Tux & Tales Photography told me. “We decided we would do a few styled shoots ourselves on a shoestring budget. I think it is a great way to show brides that they can have a fun and fab style with a little pocket change and a lot of elbow grease. I hope you enjoy my ultra-rad millinery. Picture me sitting on the living room floor, feathers flying everywhere whilst my cat tries to run off with the hat in his mouth every time I turn around to get another feather. The bouquet I made myself out of crepe paper. Boo (our model) is a burlesque performer so she did her own hair & make up!”
“As for inspiration – we were really dedicated to a shoot which was going to demonstrate the beauty of the North,” Jaye continued. “Although we had a brief stint in Essex, we are really Northerners at heart and I wanted to do something fun and sassy that shows Yorkshire at its best. The photos taken in front of Drax (the coal fire plant) are particularly special to me. People often complain about the North of England being ‘too industrial’ but that is exactly what we love about it. There is something so optimistic about industry. The big factories are where hard working people go to create the fabulous things we use and eat every day.”
“We stopped and took the pictures with your amazing little planner when we were on our way to the power plant shoot. We were at a park near our house and there are a few really rad, grotty little buildings which we thought made a pretty Rock n Roll backdrop. Ever the northern lass, Boo only needed to be told ‘act like a rockstar’ and I just had to be around to press the button!”
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