Do you watch the BBC Three show Don’t Tell the Bride? When I was engaged I was pretty obsessed. Gareth and I would sit together to watch it every week and my favourite game was quizzing him over what he’d do if he had to plan our whole wedding himself.
Like many of you, I always wondered what everyone got up to behind the scenes – Did the bride really not have anything to do with it? (SURELY you’d be dropping hints like mad before you signed the contract?!) How much influence do the production crew have? And why do the boys always pick the wrong dress?!
This is not the first time I’ve featured a DTTB wedding. Mike and Becky’s wrestling wedding has graced these pages previously but by their own admission they didn’t really enjoy the process. However when I saw Lauren and Perry’s big day, and read that they really did enjoy doing it, I was keen to speak to them about it. Plus what could be more Rock n Roll than a gig themed wedding at one of the most iconic music venues in London!?
“We knew that we wanted to get married but that after having a baby and buying a flat there was never going to be a time when it was financially possible”, Perry began when I asked what made them want to go on the show. “Lauren was going to apply for The Great British Bake Off but saw the application for Don’t Tell The Bride and decided to do that instead. I didn’t think we had much chance of being picked but when she read me her entry email I started to get really nervous. It was GOOD!”
Roni and David had their first baby, Quintessa, a few months ago. So when their friend, pro photographer Mysi of Soda Fountain Photography asked if they’d like do a shoot inspired by their love of music, they jumped at the chance to get some gorgeous photos of themselves and their new addition.
The shoot took place at Honky Tonk BBQ Garden, in Chicago. Roni wore a selection of handmade dresses and headpieces. There were stringed instruments everywhere, harmonica favours, a rocking horse and bathtub that they stood in! The vintage furniture was perfect for displaying the gorgeous cakes, flowers and paper good created by some awesome local wedding vendors.
What could be more Rock n Roll than a concert wedding at a dive bar? Nothing! And that’s why I’m thrilled to be sharing Tom & Lindsey’s wedding at The Shakedown in Bellingham, Washington with you today.
“Our inspiration for our wedding was our relationship itself”, began the bride. “We have always had a ton of friends, gone to shows together, and eaten amazing, bad-for-you food. I’d say probably the first thing we decided to do differently was have our wedding at a bar. We met in college, on what’s known as Thirsty Thursday in the university world which is why we chose to get married at a bar on a Thursday. When we approached The Shakedown, I think they were surprised that we wanted to have our wedding there, but they were very cool and very excited to make it happen.”
“Next, rather than send out a formal invitation, I built an entire website (QR code included) and then designed show posters in Photoshop that would become our wedding invitations. I attached the QR code at the bottom for our tech-savvy friends and then designed concert tickets to go with the flyers that would include details about the ceremony itself, which took place two and a half hours before the Big Party. To keep with the theme, I made backstage passes and event wristbands as well.”
“Other things that we thought were pretty different is that my husband is a very popular, charismatic guy, so he played MC for most of our wedding and party himself, getting the crowd laughing and joking around. He also performed that night. His band played a 45-minute set during the latter half of the Big Party.”
Melanie and Josh’s October wedding was held at Maitland Civic Center in Orlando. Melanie’s dress was from David’s Bridal and she wore it with a red ModCloth sweater and a petticoat from Unique Vintage. Their wedding had a concert theme to reflect their mutual love of music.
“We wanted to do things our way”, began the bride. “We wanted to make sure everything was a reflection of us, our personalities and things we love. The cassette centerpieces were definitely a huge part of that and the Toki Doki cake toppers. I definitely didn’t wear the traditional long dress. I wanted to wear a tea-length dress so bad and was not going to compromise that at all. They’re just so cute!”
“Pretty much every piece of our wedding was DIY from the playlist to the centerpieces and the corsages our moms wore” she continued. “It was so much fun to make everything and have everyone really like all the different things we had. There were times I thought I’d never be done and times where I’d have to stop painting table number frames or making bouquets for a few days because my hands were hurting so bad. I wanted to just give up a couple times because it didn’t seem like it would be worth it or that it wasn’t good enough or that anyone would like anything I did. But in the end, it was definitely worth it. DIY-ing this wedding was the only way to go to things the way I envisioned it.”
Ben and Samantha met at a gig. Ben’s English accent caught Sam’s attention and they started chatting. Ben is in a band himself, Asking Alexandria, and so music was a big part of their wedding theme. They nicknamed the wedding ‘Asking Samantha’ and there were musical and British references throughout. Ben wore a jacket with the Union Jack on the back, and the groom’s cake was Big Ben!
“Our inspiration came from me wanting it to show our personalities”, wrote Samantha. “He’s in a rock band and I’m a yoga teacher. I thought it would be cool if we had a rocker theme but kept it elegant as well. I was right. It was absolutely perfect! It was an evening wedding so the ceremony was at sunset and the reception was all dark but with red lights and candles everywhere. The dark red flowers next to white and black candles was what made it dark and mysterious, hence, rocker theme.”
It’s no big secret that I’m obsessed with pink hair (duh!) but it’s unusual that the object of my affection is the groom and not the bride. It goes without saying that this bride looks incredible, but God damn, her groom looks awesome too! Cyn and Stan were married in Los Angeles. Their ceremony was at Club Nokia, on the stage (the first ever wedding there) and the reception was held at the incredible Sunset Marquis hotel.
“Our wedding was inspired by Hedwig and the Angry Inch by way of the Princess Bride!” explained Cyn. “We were the first couple ever to get married on the stage of Club Nokia. We kept looking at various wedding venues and nothing clicked or felt like ‘us’. We are both very much into music and then Stan got this crazy idea about getting married on the stage of a cool music venue. Throughout our life together we’ve enjoyed many Rock n Roll shows around the world so it seemed fitting that our wedding should be a Rock n Roll themed wedding. It sounded interesting but we didn’t know if it would be doable. Through Stan’s music connections we were able to make it happen.Things fell into place as one favor lead to another and Club Nokia consented to letting us get married on their stage. We had to plan the wedding quickly to fit into their schedule so we ended up organising everything in less than 2 months!”