Danni and Ben, your wedding gives me LIFE. I am so excited to share it on the blog today.
This gorgeous heavily-tattooed pair were hitched in Maidstone, at a venue called Kent Life. “Our wedding theme was a bit of a mixture of 1950s, rural farm life and a tea party!” said Danni. “We love the 1950s anyway, I have a huge collection of dresses already and we just love the music and the dancing. I really love that our wedding was personal to us and wasn’t generic.”
“One of the highlights of the day was our fire breathing burlesque dancer!” she continued. “That’s pretty different to most weddings! We just wanted to be ourselves and also to make sure there was a lot going on all day. I would never want anyone to say they were bored, so we had wooden games, a sweetie table and a Rat Pack tribute. We also had close up magic and it really created such a great atmosphere with people crowding round and laughing!”
Polish born Karolcia and Paweł were married in June at a church in Skierniewice. They then travelled to Nieborów for their casual reception at Oberża pod Złotym Prosiakiem, a restaurant in a beautiful all wooden building. It rained (A LOT!) but it didn’t dampen their spirits one little bit!
“We met at primary school”, began the bride, “we used to sit together at the same desk! For our wedding we wanted something boho and Rock n Roll but also inspired by Polish folk.”
“We loved planning the wedding together”, she continued. “Each decision that we had to make brought us closer and we even got to know each other better!”
Dave and Vicki’s Hull wedding was colourful, fun and laid back. They were inspired by bright colours, geometric shapes and wild flowers. They also had lots of Lego details such as the amazing table plan (so creative!) and the table numbers.
“We tried to stay away from the stereotypical big white wedding as we just didn’t feel like that was us and we wanted the day to represent us as a couple”, Vicki explained. “We basically just wanted a big party and for everyone to have as much fun as as.”
“I walked down the aisle to a Yann Tiersen song from Amelie which is one of our favourite films and something that came up in conversation on our first date. I was really relaxed all morning but then as soon as we arrived at the venue I was suddenly really nervous to walk down in front of everyone. I got a bit teary during the vows but Dave soon lightened the mood once we were officially man and wife by lifting my arm up and cheering which got a big laugh off everyone! We then walked out to one of our favourite bands Belle and Sebastian and headed straight off to take some photos.”
Jess and Steve were married at Race and Religious, a quintessential New Orleans venue which was built in the 1830s. They were inspired by the city itself for their June wedding.
“New Orleans was a big inspiration for the wedding”, said the bride. “I would say it was alternative in that we often referred to it as our ‘party’ rather than our ‘wedding’. It helped us remember to keep it fun. Our theme was pretty loose but it was really about New Orleans and love and celebration. We played off the romantic and imperfect loveliness of it all.”
“I DIY’ed a lot of the wedding elements and I had a great time with it”, she continued. “We tried to make sure you could see a bit of us in everything we did and keep it personal. Our wedding favours were jars of honey from a bee-keeper in Steve’s mom’s community garden in Florida. That was symbolic for us because we got engaged in Wolfgang Laib’s Waxroom in the Phillips Collection Museum in DC.”
Hayleigh and Marc met at an alternative nightclub in 2010 so they always knew their wedding would be quite non-traditional. “We went for a bohemian-esque evening wedding however tried not to go over the top with our decorations”, said the bride. “We really wanted it to be about us and our families, not the ‘stuff’. Whilst I had hundreds of photos saved on Pinterest not a lot of those ideas made it to the big day!”
“The bouquets and headpiece were made by me, my mother and my godmother the day before the wedding”. she continued. “We went to the local flower market and picked out anything that we wanted. It ended up costing approx $200 including the wire, tape and ribbons and a few hours of laughter! We also made our own rug and cushions. I picked out all of the fabrics and my mother and her sister made the amazing creations. I decorated some small bottles and vases for the bar tables to put flowers in.”
Harnaam Kaur has polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS), which meant she started growing a beard from aged 11. Battling to remove her hair every day, and bullied at school, she started to self harm and considered suicide. Harnaam is now a body-confidence and anti-bullying activist and she fully embraces her unique look and hopes to encourage others to do the same. So when this bridal shoot using Harnaam as the model was submitted to me I nearly jumped out of my skin with excitement!
“I am a British born female living in Slough”, Harnaam told me. “I am a little different from other women. “I was diagnosed with polycystic ovaries from a really young age, around the time I hit puberty. PCOS is a condition in which there is an imbalance in hormones within the female body, this has led me to have more male hormones then female ones, and it is also the reason to why I have a beard. I used to have my face waxed 2 to 3 times a week, and on the days I couldn’t bare the pain I would simply shave.”
“I had a great upbringing and a really happy family life but I was severely bullied all the way through school, starting from nursery right through to my late secondary school days. I even got beaten up a few times. I became very aggressively suicidal and I even resorted to self harm.”
“At the age of 16 I hit my biggest low. I had been suicidal all year due to immense bullying from school and people in society. I hid away and did not want to venture out into the public. My bedroom was my only safe haven. I was hugely depressed. I remember sitting on my bed and thinking about taking my own life. But instead, as I sat there, I started to counsel myself. I told myself ‘The energy you are putting into ending your life, put all that energy into turning your life around and doing something better’.”
“At that point I decided I wanted to be me. I decided to keep my beard and step forward against society’s expectations of what a woman should look like. Today I am not suicidal and I do not self harm. Today I am happy living as a young beautiful bearded woman. I have realised that this body is mine, I own it, I do not have any other body to live in so I may as well love it unconditionally.”