Photography Credit: Team Rhodes Weddings
For today’s guest post I asked one of my favourite bloggers and recent bride-to-be Britt of Bowie Bride to write me a little sommat sommat. I am VERY excited as I’m going to be blogging the full report on her “ballstastic Rock n Roll wedding” just as soon as her pro pictures are ready, so I thought a little word from the lady herself might be nice way to whet your appetites for seeing her killer wedding in full!
(I blogged their engagement session here)
Britt wrote about something that I KNOW a lot of you will struggle with when planning your weddings (hell, I know I did) – thoughts like “Am I Rock n Roll enough?”, “How are my family going to react?”, “Will people approve of our choices?” Well sit back and listen to Auntie Britt, because she of the “no holds barred, titstastic” wedding fame is here to kick you into shape!
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I’ll just be straight with you. I had a kickass, no holds barred, titstastic, totally madhäus, rock n roll wedding, and I couldn’t be happier with the way it all turned out. But I’ll be honest… if you showed pictures of our wedding to ‘the me’ 5 years ago, I would havebeen shocked to see how “alternative” it ended up being. I would have said, “Yeah right. We’re not nearly rock n roll enough to dream that up, let alone have the balls to pull it off! What would our families think?!” I have always considered myself to be unique, and I generally accredit my stark open-mindedness to my career in the arts, my hippie parents and my love for all things rock n roll (music or otherwise). But the power to outwardly exude a rock n roll attitude and lifestyle didn’t really happen for me until I started planning our wedding. Let’s just say that when I said “Yes” to my husband’s proposal 1.5 years ago, I wasn’t just saying “yes” to a life married to him; I was also saying “yes” to making grab-life-by-the-balls changes that, prior to that moment, I had been too afraid to make. I wanted this new chapter in our lives to be led by bravery as opposed to fear. In other words, the rock n roll-ness in me needed some serious unleash-age. So to all you brides out there who consider themselves on the cusp of being rock n roll, this article is for you.
Me, walking down the aisle with my Sister
When Dianne & Andrew’s wedding landed smack bang in my inbox, alongside the email from their awesome photographer Jonathan Canlas which read “I think this wedding is RIGHT up your alley, 7 month’s pregnant bride and SUPER Rock n Roll” I was a little bit excited. Was I right to be? Hell YES baby!
I have to say, I’m actually a little bit honoured to feature this wedding. Not just because clearly the photographs and the wedding are gorgeous, but because the family appear to have gone through so much, yet come out happier and healthier on the other side. The bride explained;
“Wow, this turned into a huge undertaking answering all the questions. I am glad that you asked them, because while you only will take the links from the answers, it forced me to write about my wedding which I had been putting off due to taking care of my baby and frankly, being so damn tired, this was the last thing I wanted to write about. Which is sad, because the fact that my husband and I made it to a wedding day is no small feat.”
“In the last year, we have dealt with drug addiction, rehab, an accidental pregnancy, sobriety, a wedding, and a few weeks later, our son. I loved answering all these questions because it reminded me that just because our situation is far from what is typically considered ideal, it is ideal for us, and I would not have changed a thing about it. I will be sure to mention you on my blog, your site is a righteous reminder that where love and beauty can be found is not always on a magazine stand in the check out line.”
Humbling. So humbling.
Jill & Neil’s wedding is vintage “Englishness” in every sense of the word. The whole day – from Jill’s floral Fur Coat No Knickers vintage gown, to the London bus that transported them and personalised vintage postcards used as invitations and then re-used as the table-plan – was an authentic representation of the theme they loved so much. “We took vintage inspiration from our own families, finding old frames in charity shops for lots of photographs of our parents, grandparents and great-grandparent’s weddings,” they told me. “These filled the fireplaces of the Lodge and meant we were surrounded by reminders of our ancestors as well as being beautiful pictures.”
“Also, to entertain our guests on our bus trip we had a picture quiz to guess who the couples in the old photos were – with the answers on the back of the original at the venue. These were in bags made by a charity from recycled newspapers from The India Shop and we also included bus related gifts to keep the children amused – mostly from the London Transport Museum, and old fashioned sweets and goodies. On the tables we used luggage labels from the Post Office for place names, which my nieces helped stamp with butterflies and tied to mini jars filled with old fashioned sweets from Hope and Greenwood.”
The day also had a lot of very personal and emotion feelings behind it. As Jill had been previously widowed, the couple knew that is would be a particularly emotional day so wanted to make it extra special and beautiful. The service itself was very important to them as they had actually met at the Cathedral where they chose to marry.
Taking inspiration from music festivals and garden parties, April & Alex wanted to create a laid back, personal wedding. They loved creating a lot of the details themselves and really wanted to make something that not only reflected them but was fun for their guests.
The bride made all the wedding stationary herself – from the invitations to the luggage tags. “I designed the postcard sized invitations on photoshop, lined the envelopes with floral paper and stamped the backs with an old fashioned address stamp,” she explained. “The orders of service were hand stamped, bound with a sewn spine and decorated with mismatched fabric hearts. We stuck to kraft paper and the same font to pull everything together. I didn’t like the idea of picking one colour as a ‘theme’ but stuck to hot and dusky pink, peach and greens as my colour palate. The confetti packets were a project from Martha Stewart and made by sewing together tracing paper and a handstamped label. For the table plan I stretched some floral fabric over a wooden frame and pinned everyone’s names on hand stamped parcel tags in alphabetical order, each with their table number. I painted cheap frames from Ikea backed with fabric for the table numbers and the place settings were also hand stamped parcel labels. I used inexpensive different sizes glass cosmetic bottles bought online to use as vases.”
Warning: this post has a hell load of photographs and I ain’t going to apologise for that. I literally couldn’t cut them down! I am so excited about Lindsey & Adriano’s wedding I can hardly contain myself. The gorgeous bride and her musician husband had a beautiful and quirky vintage-themed wedding at Farbridge, West Sussex.
“Our inspiration was easy we just collected things we love and are interested in,” the bride told me. “I love all things vintage because I love that it has history and seems to have so much more personality than many modern things. I find that vintage things were made to last and made with care and skill unlike most things today are made to be disposable and are not designed to last. I wanted our day also to have lots of elements of fun so I came up with the idea of an ice cream sundae bar so guests could be kids again, make a mess and choose whatever topping they wanted! We also bought a kiss-o-meter for a bit of fun, it was from an American site and was from the 60′s. In the reception barn at Farbridge they also had a projector. One of my favourite films is Cinema Paradiso, there is a scene at the end of the film which is called the kissing scene which features lots of kisses from famous old black and white films. We played this scene on repeat on the the projector to add another dimension to the room. We had a wedding cocktail which we served in jam jars and bought some quirky straws too.All these things were good talking points for the guests and added elements of fun and interaction.”
Lindsey wore a vintage dress that she found online at The Vintage Bride. The American site was the first place the bride visited when deciding on what she wanted to do for the wedding and after seeing the beautiful, one of a kind gowns she was sold on the theme. “Finding a dress was one of the first steps I took in beginning to organise our wedding. I first looked on the web and found this site, fell in love with the dress and bought it. A bit risky but the lady who runs the site, Rosie, says that if your dress is not right she will give a full refund which is quite unusual for an online site. So I took the risk. It arrived in a beautiful box tied with a big pink ribbon and it was quite magical moment to open up revealing my dress for the first time, perfectly wrapped including a lovely lavender scented parcel. It was love at first sight.”
Rachael & Rafe were uninterested in a traditional religious or civil ceremony so decided to get married on their own terms. They were wed by one of their closest friends, Tara, in a pagan hand-fasting service which took place outside, in a small copsed wood locally known as “The Spinney”. They knew very early on in their planning that this was where they wanted to get married as the couple had spent some time living on a narrow-boat on the river, and for that period The Spinney was their garden, “It was where we hung out, relaxed, partied and where our children played. It is full of trees and love and so naturally the first place we both thought of for our ceremony” the couple told me.
The couple also chose a very special place to them for their festival themed reception, ” During the winter months The Spinney mooring would become too muddy to get our children to school without being caked in mud so we would moor as often as possible at Solomons Bridge. Across from which another dear friend of ours has a pasture for their cows. It’s such a fabulous place!! So beautiful and when the canal froze over we would have lots of fun pinging crab apples across the ice, or watching the ducks slide across it on landing. It seemed like a fantastic place to hold a festival!! So that is what we did.”