I teased a photo of Emma in her amazing short short wedding dress on twitter as soon as photographer David McNeil sent over this wedding to me. Whoaaa, I literally had to share it with someone (well 12,000 someone’s) right away! I. Die.
“We got married in Bardsea (on the bay of Morecambe)” Emma told me. “It’s my parent’s village which is just such a gorgeous place near the moors and the beach. Even though we live in Camden and love it – we’re both down to earth and love being outdoors and away from the city, so it was a natural choice. We got married at Eden Lodge, on the outskirts of the village, which has recently been converted from a Edwardian home to a small, minimalist hotel in some AMAZING grounds. We got married in the hotel itself and then the reception was in a marquee in the grounds. It was the hotel’s first wedding and they were AMAZING. We can’t sing their praises enough. The staff were EXCEPTIONAL and really went above and beyond to make our day perfect.”
Emma’s amazing dress was a custom-made Suzanne Neville number. She explains, “I never thought Matt and I would get married. I knew we’d be together forever but we weren’t really the ‘marrying kind’. As soon as he proposed, I knew my dress would be something that reflected my character. I’m not a girly girl and I usually dress in biker boots and short skirts – so short was what I wanted. I wanted to feel like ME on the day not a BRIDE. I scooted through some websites looking for a short wedding dress and found one designed by Suzanne Neville. I fell in love but hunted for something cheaper that I loved as much. Anyway I didn’t. The dress was custom made for me at a crazy price. But it was the only one for me! I’ve been taking some millinery courses so I wanted to make something for me to wear. Obviously our wedding was near the royal wedding, so as a joke I designed and made a crown out of silk and fresh water pearls to wear. In the end I chickened out of wearing it as I was already so tall in my platforms but you can see me holding it in this photo.”
Now that I’m writing my final ever ‘Alice in Weddingland’ post I really don’t know where to start. I am now happily married and honeymooned, and it is the best feeling in the world. So I shall simply relive that amazing day with you, through this article, and hope that I can convey at least some of the magic that the day held for me. I hope you enjoy this final instalment: Alice in Weddingland got married!
We booked to stay in the hotel the reception was being held in for two nights, one night prior and then the wedding night itself. Our room was beyond gorgeous: champagne, chocolates and strawberries waiting for us on arrival, and a bed so big it took FIVE pillows to fill it up lengthways. There was also a lovely sofa, coffee table, and dressing table, which turned out just perfect for when Elbie arrived at 9.30am to do my hair and makeup. We had done a trial a few weeks earlier so we knew exactly what we were doing, and it took around two hours from start to finish. During this time Sassy from Assassynation Photography, Frank from Sassy n Frank videography and Andy from Cine8 all arrived and got to work filming my getting ready, and shooting my dress in all manner of positions around the hotel. When sassy disappeared with my dress I was of course a little nervous, but when I saw the pictures I knew it was all worth it! I put in a little ban – no photos or filming before my makeup had been done, because it had been an early morning for me, and a late night drinking with our friends the night before!
Although I didn’t have traditional bridesmaids, my two best friends Lois and Claire were with me the whole time while I was getting primped and preened from all angles. The helped me into my dress and garter, and even did up my shoes for me (I broke my foot three weeks before the wedding, so had to hobble around the whole day. Also, suddenly the gorgeous Irregular Choice red shoes Graham had purchased me as a present were so impractical I had to ditch them, and cram my swollen foot into a pair of red Ked plimsolls!)
Once I was all ready, and Graham had called me to say he was we set about orchestrating a lovely mini-shoot within the wedding day. Sassy had had the idea of photographing our first look (our reactions to seeing each other all dressed up for the first time) and thought where better to do this then in the reception room that had been dressed by our florist Miss Moles that morning? So, I limped up the spiral staircase that led to our ‘room in the sky’, and saw Graham standing by the window with his back to me. When Graham turned around it was such a special moment – he looked beyond adorable, and I knew then and there that I was making the best decision of my life by marrying him. We explored the room, taking in all the beautiful flowers, giant cupcakes, and sweetie buffet, as well as the photos from our engagement shoot that we had displayed on mini-easels around the place.
We then went to have our portraits taken. We decided to take these photos around the hotel. Lucky for us the hotel was filled with mirrored walls, chandeliers, and quirky old fashioned wooden phone booths so it made for a cute backdrop. It was so fun just messing around with Graham and our wonder team and it calmed me down quite a lot from the nerves I’d been feeling creep up on me all morning.
A couple of hours later it was time for me to go wait for my wedding car in our room, and Graham to lead the guests down the seafront to the Town Hall. I can honestly say, those ten minutes I was alone in our room were ten of the most surreal moments of my life. The beautiful magnitude of what was about to happened to me was really sinking in, and I was so excited I couldn’t contain it any longer. When my Step-Dad arrived at the door to take me to the car I knew I was ready to get married, and I couldn’t bloomin’ wait!
We arrived at the Town Hall around the same time as the guests, and it was lovely seeing our loved ones in all their finery, mingling and getting excited to share our special day with us. I made a beeline for Graham, and we headed into the building to have our pre-ceremony meeting with the Registrar. A short while later, it was time for us to enter the room via a side door, as all our guests were already seated. Regina Spektor ‘Us’ played as we walked through, and I remember seeing everyone’s expectant and animated faces as we took our seats at the front. It was a lovely feeling.
We opted for a simple and modern set of vows, and the ceremony lasted around twenty minutes. When it was time to leave, an unorganised sort of receiving line formed, with each guest personally greeting us as they left through the door. This moment was one of the highlights of my day, as it was so unexpected and meaningful. We didn’t plan it but it was so nice to say “Hi” to everyone. We only had 30 guests so it didn’t take very long.
As the guests exited the building they were greeted by Hannah from The Tea Set, who while we had been actually getting married had set up a red vintage ice cream trike just outside the door. This was a huge hit with the guests, and I cannot recommend her enough. It was quirky yet practical, as everyone likes a little light refreshment! Also it fit in perfectly with our seaside theme, so I just knew I had to have it!
Graham and I were driven back to the hotel, and the guests walked back along the seafront. As we walked through the rotating doors of the hotel we were met by the staff greeting us as ‘Mr and Mrs Clark’ and with two flutes full of champagne. Lovely! Our guests started filtering in then, so we directed them to the 8th floor, where our reception was being held. We commissioned Lucy Ledger to design an A2 poster board that we displayed on a giant easel to pop by the entrance to the Chartwell Room, to point guests in the right direction. Although I don’t see how they could have missed the entrance, and there was a vintage apple crate full of glasses of Pimms right by it!
We had a Pimms and canapé hour, whilst we mingled with the guests and enjoyed everyone’s reactions to the little touches we had put in to make the decoration unique to us. The sun then came out, so Kat made sure us girls and Graham hit the beach to have some outdoorsy photos taken. This part of the day was super fun, and the difference natural light makes in a photo is phenomenal. We then all headed back to the Hilton, for the wedding breakfast.
We opted for a seaside themes buffet, and I must say there was an insane amount of food. I think we got through little more then half of it! We didn’t have a seating plan, but we needn’t have worried as everyone found a seat next to whomever they were talking to, and it worked out perfectly. At the end of the meal Graham and I made a small toast/thank you speech each, and I must say Graham’s utterly trumped mine! We then opened presents, drank lots of champagne, and cut our giant cupcake! Another highlight for me was throwing my bouquet, as I had no idea how competitive the single girls at the wedding were going to be! The action shot photos of this single event are priceless!
We had to vacate the room by 9pm, so at around 8.30pm some guests left, and the rest moved downstairs to the hotel bar with us. Queue a LOT of drinking and stolen cigarette breaks, until at about midnight when the night came to a natural close. (Apart from Sassy and Kat, whom I later found out went out and hit up my favourite Brighton nightclub until 4 in the morning!!)
All in all, it was quite simply the best day of my life. But don’t let me mislead you into thinking that it all went perfectly…the registrar kept calling me Elizabeth during the the vows, I got chicken satay allll over my one-of-a-kind Joanne Fleming wedding dress, and Graham was such a bag of nerves the whole day he didn’t eat or drink a thing!
You learn though, and I want to stress to you all, that it is the imperfections that make your wedding personal and unique to you. If you wanted a generic, perfect white wedding then you probably wouldn’t be reading Rock n Roll Bride right now, and it’s important to keep that in mind.
Remember what the day really means: is it a party for a party’s sake, or is it a party to celebrate the commitment you have just made to the love of your life? By putting everything into perspective you can minimise and bridezilla tendencies, and have the best day of your life.
To all you lucky ladies (and men!) planning your wedding day – enjoy it! The day itself goes so quickly, so make sure you enjoy every part of the process, because it wont last forever. And finally, I’d like to say the biggest thank you of all to Mrs Rock n Roll Bride herself: my wedding would have been a million miles removed from the day that it turned out to be if it wasn’t for you. I hope you know how much you mean to Graham and myself.
Laurence & Gi’s low-key and informal wedding had me smitten as soon as I laid eyes on those flower head garlands! To me, they totally sum up what I adore about this wedding – leaving your stresses behind you, having fun and creating something personal and beautiful. They had a very small wedding with only a few guests and the really put their all into creating something wonderful. “I didn’t have a focused inspiration in mind to be honest, but I did have a clear vision on how I envisaged the vibe of the wedding, so I wrote down in my notebook ‘Young, Easy, Relaxed with a little bit of Attitude!'” explained Gi. “I wasn’t quite sure on what I wanted, I was very open-minded with my imaginations. I didn’t want a cliche wedding with too many guests and too many formalities, there wouldn’t be enough for intimacy.”
“Going with my heart is the only thing I follow. I wanted this event to be real and beautiful, a place with a natural beauty yet also earthy and humble. I didn’t want my guests to just join us for the wedding day only, I wanted to treat them to a long, relaxing weekend together, well away from their stresses of London. A little low-key, summer afternoon garden wedding as relaxing and charming as it can be, where everyone can just be themselves and look awesome. And of course making sure there’s enough ice to keep your drinks chilled.”
I am totally loving the Barbies and mini rubber ducks used in the decor (!) and hand-drawn personalised illustration placecards. It’s the little details like this that make this intimate wedding so beautiful.
Gi wore a dress by Ralph Lauren which perfectly complimented the laid-back, bohemian vibe of the wedding. Her tiara was by Andrew Prince and veil by Sarah Morgan Bridal. The flower head garlands that she and her bridesmaids wore were created by their florist, Charlie of The Real Cut Flower Garden, a company that specialise in growing their own flowers and foliage in the English countryside.
“We grow glorious old-fashioned and unusual flowers and foliage and create beautiful seasonal bouquets which can be delivered from our gardens to your door,” they say. “Ours are flowers for anyone who appreciates gardens, a long way from standard florist fare. Wedding flowers are a speciality, glorious natural arrangements for any situation, whether you’re getting married in a cathedral or a field.”
Ant & Lou were married in Chianti, Italy but had a massive reception party at The Kazimier nightclub in Liverpool on their return. “We wanted to get married abroad and bring with us all of the people we love dearly,” Lou told me. ” It was important to both of us to have our friends and family there, but to also have a very personal wedding, something that was exactly us. We found a beautiful castle in Chianti, Italy and started our wedding process from there. Everyone came on different flights at different times on different days and even though there was an ash cloud, an unexploded WW2 bomb found in Pisa airport and severe winds causing planes to be diverted, everyone got there eventually. One group of friends were travelling for 26 hours just to get from Liverpool to Tuscany! but they made it and their positivity was beautiful.”
The couple asked photographer Assassynation to photograph their reception in Liverpool. I’m actually really good friends with Sassy and she emailed me the day after this wedding to excitedly tell me all about it and that I was going to love it…and she was right!
“We knew we wanted to have a party at home to be able to invite all of out friends and family that couldn’t make it to Italy,” continued the bride. “We also knew we had to have it in the The Kazimier – what an AWESOME venue. We took our inspiration from everything we love… I think that was why it was so eclectic. We didn’t have a specific theme and we probably wouldn’t have stuck to one anyway as I’m a bit scatty. We wanted our wedding to be enjoyable for us and for everyone we love whilst still maintaining our personalities. An off the shelf wedding was definitely not for us.”
“Everything was so natural, nothing was contrived, we just arranged things that we would enjoy and tried to make it as fun as possible. A friend at the reception actually said ‘If you could get inside Ant and Lou’s heads, this is what it would be like!'”
The couple set everything up at the venue themselves the day before. Their DIY decor included a kissing booth; countless sets of fairy lights, tea light holders, lanterns and a collection of jam jars and Chianti bottles (collected over a year) to house wild flowers and candles; a washing lines with photos from the wedding pegged to them; a gypsy caravan; a ‘big fat gypsy wedding’ cake; a huge shark’s head bursting out of the venue into the garden; an old popcorn cart. They even employed an entertainment team comprised of a clown, a circus master, a ballerina, a mime artist and a lion to greet the guests. They also gave out roses, champagne and canapes as well as made for some pretty incredible photographs!
Lou wore a dress from Monsoon and a vintage veil from the 1980’s which she found in a charity shop. Her bridesmaids also all wore Monsoon dresses but they were told to pick any one they liked and felt most comfortable in.
Whoa visual overload! Don’t you just love Ant & Lou? Now this is a Rock n Roll Bride….
Angelo & Rin’s super quirky, super fun and super them engagement shoot was split into themes – each one styled (by the couple) to represent different areas of their relationship. “We had two locations for our shoot–in our house and at my old college, where Angelo and I met,” Rin explained. “The Field, Picnic, Skate, and Steps sessions were taken at the alma matter at our university. The ‘Steps/Skate’ location is actually exactly where I met Angelo (with his punk rock band) at an outdoor rock concert. ‘The Field’ and ‘Picnic’ sessions showcased more romantic side to our relationship.”
“The ‘Chalk/Suspenders Sessions’ showcases some of the other things we love doing–doodling/creating art, dressing up and goofing around with our dogs. The ‘Balloon Session’ was a tribute to our indie side, and in the ‘Bed Session’ shows how we like rocking out, drinking beer, and how we imagine married life to be like.”
“Finally,the ‘Switcheroo Session’ illustrates the androgynous nature of our relationship. Physically, Angelo looks girlier than me (he’s fairer, practically poreless and zitless… and more docile!) and I’m pretty much a tomboy. But on a deeper note, what’s great about our relationship is that we don’t let gender stereotypes define our roles in our marriage. And in a traditional patriarchal Christian society like the Philippines, that’s pretty cool.”
“Angelo and I were super lucky to have design/photography duo Everywhere We Shoot on board to do our prenup photography,” bride-to-be Rin continued. “These guys are friends who frequent the same gigs, art spaces, and thrift shops that we go to. Their philosophy has always been to keep doing and creating, not for money, but just because they love what they do. And knowing that we were on a budget-DIY-wedding, they agreed to do a pro bono engagement shoot for us in a heartbeat. I was also blessed to have a former schoolmate slash band groupie of mine, Kitty Caragay, do my make-up.”
“Before the shoot, we exchanged emails with Everywhere We Shoot sharing photography styles/fashion/make-up we liked. Of course, a LOT of our references came from Rock n Roll Bride. Everywhere We Shoot loved our ideas and they were really stoked to work with us because they knew that we were all on the same wavelength.”
“Everywhere We Shoot did a great job in capturing our individuality, as well as showing our personality as a couple,” Rin continued. “The photos were very playful, they showed us doing the things we love, being silly, and just having fun together. The styling and production design was done by us so that the shoot would be 100% genuine. Our props consisted of our toys (bubbles, guitars, skulls, dolls), junk in the house, vintage stuff that we love (cameras, books, vinyls), and my darling doggie-siblings.”
“Our wedding will be inspired by our passion for design and music, and challenged by a very tight budget. Hence, we set out to express our undying love for each other through a vintage-Rock-n-Roll-do-it-yourself wedding (and pre-wedding shoot) which we fondly named “Till Death Do Us Party.”
What a cute session to round off a fabulous week on the blog!
Unlike in England, in Scotland you can legally be married in an outside ceremony. The photos of this part of Claire & Doug’s day in particular made me fall in love with this wedding. The celebrations were held at Inver Cottage Restaurant on the banks of Loch Fyne. Claire explains, “We went on our first family holiday to Strachur last year and when we stumbled upon Inver Cottage Restaurant on the banks of Loch Fyne we fell in love with it. We love all things seafood. It was during this holiday with our 9 month old daughter, Maggie, that Doug proposed. Directly across from Inver Cottage at the ruins of the old castle Lauchlan. The only place for our wedding ceremony was at Inver Cottage. We both hated the idea of a formal wedding but wanted to share the day with close family and friends and do it in a personal and well thought out way.”
Instead of a traditional wedding dress, Claire opted for a dress by Dessy, who specialise in bridesmaid’s dresses. “I tried on a variety of ‘classic wedding dresses’ and hated every one,” Claire told me. “I had cut out an image of a dress with a bateau neckline and pockets and instantly fell in love with its laid back yet elegant appearance.”
With this she wore shoes from Dune, a vintage-inspired headpiece from Jenny Packham and carried a Lulu Guinness handbag, shaped like a pair of lips! “Since studying at art school and making handbags I have always loved Lulu Guinness. I own at least 20 of her bags and have met the lady in person. She is very 50’s glamour and I knew that was the look I was after. Rather than having a bouquet of flowers I splurged on a classic lip clutch bag of hers.”
The ‘flowers’ were hand crafted by the bride, her Mum and some of the bride’s willing students (Claire is an art teacher.) “The pupils were especially good at the button flowers,” she explained. “They made my daughter Maggie’s bouquet for me and I love it. All the fabric was vintage scraps I have collected. The buttons, beads and pearls came from my Gran’s collection and a couple of friends Mums.”
As well as the laid back and crafty vibe of the wedding, it also had a distinct water and erm…fish theme! The couple put together a number of personal touches to craft the laid back wedding of their dreams. “Our wedding invites were handmade messages in a cork topped bottle. Maggie inviting every guest to the marriage of her mummy and daddy. Using the water beside the venue as inspiration.”
“I grew up with memories of going to the seaside and eating fish n chips from newspaper wrapping and wanted this for ours with a modern twist,” Claire said. “So we bought a few newspapers when Kate and Wills got married for the photograph and headlines, then doctored it by superimposing our faces, and Maggie’s on top of the image of their balcony kiss. We changed the headlines so that we were the headline news of the day and got it printed locally. We then made these up into 50 paper baskets for our “fish suppers” to be served in (even asking our local chippy if we could have 50 of the paper trays that they use as the template shape.)”
“Carrying on the fish theme and to add some decoration to the table I handmade 50 clay hanging fish as favours. I made these by going into school at weekends and using the ceramic room there to add glazes and to kiln fire. Each one is different and marked with the date of our wedding on the back. Each name tag for table seating plans was stitched on and embellished with vintage beads and buttons to carry the vintage craft theme.”
The entertainment the couple laid on was also quite unique. Firstly they had a friend who plays the guitar serenading their guests outside, and secondly (and again, channelling Claire’s inner art teacher) they asked their guests to contribute to a painting for the couple to then take home. “While photos were happening was a couple of local artists from Fyne Studios where there and our guests were invited to add to a painting of our day that we could take home and have forever. It was perfect. Our friends and family painted Inver Cottage, the ruins of the castle, and what was happening on the top, and underneath the water, continuing fish theme. Maggie added the rainbow. We finished off the painting by adding two hearts over Inver Cottage.”