Kat and Gary’s Northampton wedding was pure punk rock! From the bride in a denim jacket with a custom patchwork back and Dr Marten boots, the skinhead groom in a 3-piece tartan suit, and their kids rocking mohawks, it really doesn’t get more authentic than this! Oh and Kat found her dress on eBay – in her exact size – for £100!
“To us our wedding was completely normal!”, began the bride “But we can see why to others it wasn’t! A groom in a three piece red tartan suit and Dr Martens and a bride in a wedding dress that is short at the front with Dr Martens and a denim jacket isn’t your usual I guess! Our reception venue wasn’t your run of the mill romantic kind of venue either, its an old bus station now used by a charity called Make A Difference (MAD) and has a very industrial feel to the outside, and a thrift shop with comic strip ‘wallpaper’ inside. We also had to have a DIY tattoo stall for our guests which just added to making it more us!! Oh and I doubt many brides travel by train drinking cans of bloody mary’s on the way to their wedding!!”
Jo and Tony were married by a small lake on a friend’s property in Denmark, on the south coast of Western Australia. The bride wore a dress from an op shop (she actually only decided the morning of the wedding what she would be wearing, after several changes of clothes!) and clear wellington boots! Tony wore an outfit also put together that morning from things he already owned or could borrow from friends. As you can probably tell this was the lowest of low key weddings!
“Originally there wasn’t really a set theme”, began Jo. “On the invites we asked people to be colourful and flamboyant if they wanted. A week out from the wedding we emailed everyone and strongly recommended gumboots as the weather forecast was looking grim and the ceremony site was outdoors around a small lake. If anything the theme was one of merging ritual and theatre. A marrying together of our different aspects, one of quiet sensitivity to ritual and acknowledging presence of spirit, and the other a desire to engage with the theatre of life and laugh loudly.”
I’ve featured a lot of colourful brides in various coloured dresses in my time, but I think Lauren might be the brightest! I mean any bride with the kahoonas to rock a multi-coloured Betsey Johnson dress with a homemade bright blue veil is a-OK in my book!
This day was the epitome of a low-key backyard wedding. It took place in their own garden, in their Brooklyn home and the bride’s mother officiated the ceremony. Once the formal part of the day was done the atmosphere quickly switched into party mode! Sparkling rose and beer were served, a band consisting of friends of the couple played, and 6-foot sandwiches from Defonte’s Sandwich Shop were devoured!
“We wanted our wedding to be comfortable and true to our personalities”, Lauren began, “a real celebration of Erik and Lauren. I think the way it all came together was kind of patchwork. It took a village to build something so strong. Erik and I are so different from each other in so many ways that a traditional white classical wedding just isn’t our kind of union. It needed to be odd and surprising, happy, romantic and a little ridiculous to reflect our relationship.”
The couple did do a lot themselves, with the help of lots of friends and family. Their biggest expense was getting their garden ready to hold all their guests! “My only advice on having a DIY wedding could be: necessity is the mother of invention. Whether its budget or time or space that’s got you in a bind, remember to keep an open mind and pull a couple of late nights and memorable creative ideas will emerge.”
Rachael and Rob wanted to get away from the city for their wedding. So they rented a camp ground, just outside of Philadelphia where they could say “I do” and stay all weekend with their friends and family.
“We live in the heart of Philadelphia and wanted to find a place that all our friends and family could get away from the city of Brotherly Love while sharing in their Union of Love”, wrote Rachael. ” Maple Treehouse Camp on the Appalachian Trail in western Maryland proved just the place, offering an escape of fun where guests could spend the weekend celebrating. Since we have both lived all over before settling in Philly, we wanted to be able to spend more than a few hours with those special friends who made the journey. Friends travelled from all parts of the country to bunk together in tree houses, cabins, and in their own tents or campers.”
“The whole wedding was really community inspired! Since our relationship started with community and travelling adventure, we thought it perfect to find a place where all of our friends and family could get away from the city and everyday lives to find a little R & R and celebrate the love of R & R! The whole wedding came together with the community stepping up into different roles but also making sure they were able to have fun and not.”
“Upon arrival each was greeted by a ‘camp counsellor’ at the welcome table with a cabin assignment, a hand-crafted watercolor camp map, and a field guide with fun for the weekend. The whole affair, with the exception of the local organic farmer/pig roaster, Bev Egglesteine, was put on by family and friends. Dogs and kids were welcome with most wearing bow ties!”
Ames and Tel met when they were twelve, at school. Needless to say it wasn’t love at first sight! However eleven years later they virtually bumped into each other on MySpace and saw each other on a few nights out. Shortly after that they started dating.
“We didn’t set out with a theme in mind for our wedding, we just knew we wanted a laid back relaxed do with close friends and family”, Ames explained. “We didn’t have much money to spend (our budget was £3000) so we wanted to do as much ourselves as we could. I think in the end we had a laid back, homemade vintage feel to the day.”
The wedding was held at the bride’s parent’s house in Spain. It was important to the couple that their day was small and stress-free. “I’ve struggled for years with depression and social anxiety so much so that I even ducked out of being a bridesmaid at my sisters wedding because I just wanted to blend into the day, rather than be part of it”, the bride continued. “At the start we spent hours looking for inspiration for our day. We wanted something really understated that our budget could stretch to (I have a large family who would travel far and wide to go to a wedding so we needed to take those needed to keep numbers in mind). We toyed with ideas of parties in marquees and village halls and even booked and paid a deposit for a venue in Scotland (close to my Scottish family).”
Aimee and Adam couldn’t have the wedding they originally planned, but not wanting to wait to get married they decided to keep things small and as simple as possible. It was just the two them and only really close family and friends in attendance at their Oklahoma Supreme Court ceremony.
“We were married in the courthouse with family and close friends and then left them all behind to spend the day with each other and our dear friend and photographer, Cary Holton“, Aimee began. “We ate lunch at one of our favorite spots, took pictures in our vintage/oddities shop, The Salvage Room, and shared a shot of Jameson instead of champagne. We spent most of the day in an overgrown field taking pictures, and laughing. It was intimate, non-traditional and so special.”