Ames and Tel met when they were twelve, at school. Needless to say it wasn’t love at first sight! However eleven years later they virtually bumped into each other on MySpace and saw each other on a few nights out. Shortly after that they started dating.
“We didn’t set out with a theme in mind for our wedding, we just knew we wanted a laid back relaxed do with close friends and family”, Ames explained. “We didn’t have much money to spend (our budget was £3000) so we wanted to do as much ourselves as we could. I think in the end we had a laid back, homemade vintage feel to the day.”
The wedding was held at the bride’s parent’s house in Spain. It was important to the couple that their day was small and stress-free. “I’ve struggled for years with depression and social anxiety so much so that I even ducked out of being a bridesmaid at my sisters wedding because I just wanted to blend into the day, rather than be part of it”, the bride continued. “At the start we spent hours looking for inspiration for our day. We wanted something really understated that our budget could stretch to (I have a large family who would travel far and wide to go to a wedding so we needed to take those needed to keep numbers in mind). We toyed with ideas of parties in marquees and village halls and even booked and paid a deposit for a venue in Scotland (close to my Scottish family).”
Aimee and Adam couldn’t have the wedding they originally planned, but not wanting to wait to get married they decided to keep things small and as simple as possible. It was just the two them and only really close family and friends in attendance at their Oklahoma Supreme Court ceremony.
“We were married in the courthouse with family and close friends and then left them all behind to spend the day with each other and our dear friend and photographer, Cary Holton“, Aimee began. “We ate lunch at one of our favorite spots, took pictures in our vintage/oddities shop, The Salvage Room, and shared a shot of Jameson instead of champagne. We spent most of the day in an overgrown field taking pictures, and laughing. It was intimate, non-traditional and so special.”
Jane and Andrew were married in Lissanoure Castle in Loughguile, Northern Ireland. Their day was eclectic from the start which began with the most unusual, but weirdly perfect, inspiration! “Jane found a couple of starting points for the visual style of the wedding early on”, Andrew explained.
“Firstly this photo of Gram Parsons wearing his amazing white cowboy suit with bold coloured leaves and flowers, and an Alice Temperley dress called the Long Eliah Flower Show Dress. Things evolved a long way from there. We used Pinterest to develop ideas with Jane’s sisters and our lovely designer friend Kat Flint. In the end we had a lovely jumble of different bold colours, with some white and neutral tones from brown paper and hessian.”
“The main thing we wanted was for the whole thing to feel relaxed, friendly and personal”, they continued. “We tried to keep it all quite informal with lots of friends and family helping with different parts of the wedding. Music is really important to us too. Andrew spent a lot of time planning all the different musical elements of the wedding (and sang a song at our afternoon open mic).”
Mike and Ashley spent just $1200 on their amazing wedding. To do this, they forgot about anything traditional, instead opting to say ‘I do’ at their favourite place in their hometown of Portland - Voodoo Doughnut! Cat Daddy, the owner, even officiated the ceremony!
Of course they had doughnuts instead of a wedding cake. They had a large one with ‘forever’ on it, and even ones shaped like a bride and groom. “Our wedding was a celebration of us”, wrote Ashley. “We added as much personal detail as possible. I wore jewellery from both my grandmothers, our dog Lola was there and Mike wore a special slap bracelet I had bought him the year before that said WINNER. Our flowers were also so much more special because they were a handmade gift to us from a close family friend, and we were lucky to get married in a special place in our favorite city.”
“We chose Voodoo Doughnuts as our wedding location because when we first met and fell in love, we would go there every Sunday night at midnight and have a date”, she continued. “The location was another part of our wedding telling our story, and if it seems quirky or alternative, it’s probably because we are!”
“We had originally planned a larger, more traditional ceremony, but that ended up not working out”, she continued. “Once we decided to shift gears to a small ceremony, we ended up planning our wedding in about a month, and we kept it secret from most people (the morning we got married, less than 20 people knew it was happening). An hour before the ceremony, we sent a message to our close friends letting them know what we were doing, and a few hours after we put on Facebook that we’d eloped. The outpouring of love and support we received from people was the perfect cherry on top to an amazing day.”
Andrea and Tristan wanted a simple, urban wedding that reflected their love of their local area and each other. They chose Hobba has their venue, a super cool event space in Prahran, Melbourne, a stone’s throw from where they live. The day started with them getting ready together at their own home.
“Well first of all, we did it in 7 weeks!” began Andrea when I asked her what made their wedding different. “That is 7 weeks from our very first discussion about where, what, and how, to the actual day! We had originally told everyone we would do it at the end of 2014 (just to give them something) but then thought why wait – especially if it would make it easier to do something super low-key and non-traditional, and avoid having a year to over-plan an extravagant event. It did shock everyone to begin with, but then people told us that because we’d been saying that we were never going to get married, if we ever decided to, they thought we would just do it – which we did.”
If the thought of being the centre of attention on your wedding day fills you with nervous dread, then let me open up a world of new possibilities for you. Cat and Paul did things to suit them – completely. Not being a girly, girl or ever wearing dresses, two weeks before the wedding the bride decided to go with what made her feel comfortable. That meant wearing jeans, and not doing a ‘grand entrance’. She didn’t walk down the aisle at all, in fact there was no aisle. She and Paul greeted their guests together as they arrived.
“We really just wanted to have all our family and friends around us for the day and enjoy ourselves”, began Cat. “Neither of us were looking for anything more than that really, just throw a good party for everyone to enjoy. The little quirks all came via family and friends. I think there’s so much expectation around weddings these days, you have to have these favours and this dress etc. It started to get a bit like that for us, especially for me.”
But Cat didn’t want to do what was expected and that meant she wore her favourite jeans! “I had a dress planned which was a big thing for me, I’m really not a dress kind of girl but I wanted to impress Paul and do something really special for him. About two weeks before when all the final bits of planning were getting done I had a bit of a mini moment about the whole thing, entering in a dress with everyone looking at me. After a chat with my mum and Paul they both told me just to be myself and wear what I was comfy in. So the jeans and the sparkly shoes were bought! I’m so thankful for the amazing support from Paul on this, I know he would have loved to have seen me in a dress but he knew it just wasn’t me and it was more important to him that I was comfortable and enjoying myself. So I didn’t make any big entrance or anything. I was there welcoming guests with Paul and the rest of our families which I really enjoyed. There was a few people who came in and thought they were late though I think as I was already in there! There’s nothing more Rock n Roll than just being yourself after all.”