The most important thing to Amy and Craig was that they had their ceremony somewhere meaningful to them. So after a lot of back and forth (and a little bit of help from Rock n Roll Bride!) they decided to say “I do” in Amy’s parents’ back garden.
“We had a lot of trouble finding a ceremony venue we really loved and didn’t just want the standard registry office ceremony”, explained Amy. “Then we read the ‘How to plan a wedding‘ series on Rock n Roll Bride at the beginning of 2014 and it inspired the idea of having our ceremony in my parents’ back garden. It was by no means a foolproof plan, but once my parents were convinced (which didn’t actually take much doing) the ball was rolling. Since we’re both not religious a Humanist ceremony seemed like a perfect fit, and once we met Lisbeth, our celebrant, we knew we’d made the right decision. The ceremony she delivered was tailored to us, and our friends and family really enjoyed how personal it felt.”
“The idea we constantly held in mind was to create a wedding we would really want to be guests at”, she continued. “Cue plenty of food and drink! We chose a hog roast and barbecue for dinner which everyone loved, plates were piled high and guests were encouraged to go back for seconds. The dessert was cinema snacks (candy cart, popcorn, and mini tubs of ice cream) as it fitted with our love of cinema and it encouraged guests to help themselves to as much or as little as they liked, and got everyone out of their seats and mingling.”
Brooke and Brenen had their wedding at the bride’s childhood home in June. They wanted their day to feel homely and they were inspired by the Victorian era and English country gardens.
“We met at a mutual friend’s house where we got to know each other”, Brooke explained. “I had seen him on MySpace when I was 15 or 16 and fell in love when I saw him in person. The theme for the wedding was recreating home with a touch of English garden.”
“I was inspired by Victorian and English gardens with the sage green, pale pink and white metals and furniture. I wanted our wedding to feel like something you would see at your grandma’s house. Pretty much everything at the wedding my bridesmaids and I made or I found at a goodwill or antique stores. I saved money this way but spent a lot of time looking for things and creating things.”
Adorable couples with budget-friendly weddings make my heart soar! Sarah and Matthew were married in London in June. They spent just £2000 and had their reception at home.
“Matthew and I met on OkCupid”, Sarah told me. “I’d started online dating when I moved to the UK from Canada in 2013; it was a great way to meet new people and see different parts of the city. However, I also found it could be extremely boring when you don’t click with someone and spend the evening pulling teeth trying to make conversation. Once I’d settled into London life a bit more and found myself busy with work and new friends, I decided to throw in the towel, but I’d already set up a date with Matthew. We clicked right away! We broke all of the first date taboos by chatting about everything from politics and religion to feminism and pop punk. We’d been dating for 8 months when we got engaged and 4 months after that, we got married. I used to think people were daft when they’d say ‘When it’s right, you’ll just know,’ but for us, that was completely true.”
Their ceremony was held at Wandsworth Town Hall. “We had a town hall ceremony followed by a garden reception at our home later in the afternoon. Things wrapped up in the evening so we could head to a hotel for our mini-moon, so it was much shorter than many weddings. Everyone commented on how laid back and fun it felt. I think a big part of that was only incorporating traditions that felt meaningful for us. For example, we exchanged rings, but there was only one speech, no bridal party, and no feeding each other cake! We focused on the things that were important to us: good company, good food, good drinks, and good music. Everyone mingled in our back garden; it was very relaxed.”
Emi and Phil were married in their own back garden. They had a relatively small budget, so they wanted to do as much as they could themselves. They didn’t have a theme, they just wanted it to be laid back and fun for everyone.
“Phil and I had a brainstorming session where we sat down and wrote a few words we wanted to describe our wedding”. said Emi. “The words were fun, easy, comfortable, Mariachi band, simple décor, cupcakes, unique, and awesome. Then we had a list of words that we DIDN’T like which were rules, stuffiness, formality, show-offy, pretentious, themed, boring, and fancy. Then we tried to follow that loose rubric when doing our planning.”
The bride wore an amazing emerald silk dress made Cargill Custom Costumes. She made her own headpiece from gilded copper and attached glass blackberries by Elizabeth Johnson to it!
“So much of our wedding was created by our talented loved ones”, the bride continued. “My dad, Jim, built the AMAZING outdoor bar. Our friend Michael constructed our dance floor while Collin and Tristen applied the glitter (very enthusiastically, may I add; Tristen fashioned a ‘glitter application tool’ by strapping a bottle of glitter onto a large bamboo pole). Phil’s mom made the outdoor linen curtains, and Phil’s dad grew the succulent gardens for the table décor.”
Sam and Timm were married ten years ago in Vegas. They wanted to renew their vows and so they invited all their friends and family to a party in their own back garden.
“We had originally planned to have a big wedding ten years ago, but we had a few hiccups so we decided to run off to Vegas, keep things small and get married by Elvis instead!” Sam began. “We’d always wanted a big wedding though, so renewing our vows was our chance to do just that. As we didn’t need to worry about any of the legal stuff, we hosted it at home so we could have everything exactly to our taste. We didn’t want to have compromises or restrictions this time!”
The couple have had a tough few years with Sam being very ill, so the vow renewal was also a really amazing way for them to celebrate coming out the other side. “Our renewal fell a year after, almost to the day, of my first life saving surgery so it was a really poignant moment”, she continued. “I had struggled enormously with my self esteem and confidence after the surgeries left my body totally changed. The day was just so amazing. I loved all of it. It was the best day ever from start to finish.”
Did you ever see a wedding as pretty as this one?! From the paper poms, the delicate blooms, the pastel crockery and the flamingos, prepare to lose your shit just a little bit…
Monika and Mike were married in the Hazelbrook Gardens in the Blue Mountains, Australia. The bride wore a vintage dress, which she found in her friend’s attic!
“I am an artist and so wanted our wedding to reflect the style and palette of my work, said the bride. “I paint in a delicate and restricted pastel palette of translucent watercolours, and one of my main painting series’ was titled of lace and moss. It depicted delicate girls dressed in pastel silks with flowers in their hair, reclining in mansions lost in the woods, with vines and ivy creeping through abandoned windows.”