There’s something so unique about weddings in New Orleans. The traditions of the city are rarely seen elsewhere, making this a really special place to say “I do”. Wesley and Allison travelled from Memphis to tie the knot there in March.
“Initially, I wanted my wedding to feel like you just stepped into a garden party from the Edwardian era”, Allison told me. “When we decided last minute to cancel all of our plans and have the wedding in New Orleans, we knew we would be able to get away with adding lots of confetti, crystals and champagne… because New Orleans is bright and fun and magical!”
Planning a wedding is one of the most stressful times in most people’s lives. All that expectation, all those people to please, all that money being spent, wanting to make everything just perfect… It’s no wonder that there are whole reality shows about brides flipping the hell out!
While they might be seriously entertaining to watch from the outside, if you’re not careful it can be all to easy too start to exhibit some of those trademark bridezilla tenancies yourself. Here are some things to think about to help prevent you turning into a terrifying monster,
Realise that people aren’t out to hurt you
If people make snarky comments about something to do with your wedding, please remember that they are not criticising YOU as a person! It can be all to easy to take things to heart when it comes to weddings, especially if you feel you’ve put your all into something. People on the outside don’t always realise this, or know how personal the choices you’re making are.
So if someone pulls a face at the fact your not wearing white, that you’re serving fish n chips instead of a fancy dinner or that you’ve booked an Elvis impersonator as your officiant just shrug it off and realise that although it might not be to their taste, THAT DOESN’T MATTER. It’s your wedding and the fact that they might not pick something doesn’t mean it’s not the right choice for you. Don’t take these things to heart.
Think about other people’s feelings
However it can be VERY EASY to get wrapped up in the “Its my day and what I say goes” mentality. Do not turn into a brat. People want to be there for you but it also doesn’t mean that they need to be at your beck and call 24/7 or that they are your punching bag.
Your friends and family want to celebrate with you (and might have travelled a lot way to do so) so be gracious and kind at all times. Especially think about your parents’ feelings. Remember they have probably been looking forward to this moment since the day you were born so don’t turn your nose up too high at their opinions. Let them down gently if you don’t agree with something they’ve suggested.
Jeffery and Amanda eloped at Woodland Cemetery and Arboretum in Ohio. They had just their close friend Andrew as their officiant and his wife, Brittany, as their witness. “We chose our ceremony venue as the gazebo at Lookout Point, the highest natural point in Dayton, OH”, Amanda explained. “We picked it because of the abundant vegetation, beautiful architecture, and sentiment. It’s the burial place for my mother so it meant a lot to us to be married here.”
“We had initially talked about getting married October 31st 2015”, she continued. “After only a day of discussing that, we realised the stress of planning a huge event was something neither of us wanted. So we decided to get married, on December 21st, the winter solstice, which was three weeks away. The details of the wedding were less important to us than the final result of us being married.”
Josh met Emma at a burlesque club in London. Both being performers, when they came to marry on April 5th this year, they wanted their day to reflect their entertainment backgrounds.
“As I’m a burlesque dancer and Josh plays guitar in a rock band we wanted to incorporate these loves into our wedding”, Emma told me. “Although we didn’t really set out to have a theme, we just picked things we both liked so the day ended up having a sort of vintage-rockabilly-burlesque-rock theme.”
“We had three burlesque performances by our lovely friends, we had a vintage jazz singer, we had a psycho-billy band and we had the amazing eclectic playlist created by Josh. Our first dance was a mash up of Elvis Presley’s I Can’t Help Falling In Love With You and Little Richard’s Tutti Frutti and we walked out of the ceremony room, as newlyweds, to the Star Wars Throne Room music complete with a Wookie roar from one of the congregation!”
There was also plenty of DIY in this wedding – in fact nearly all of the wedding was home made! “So much of the wedding was DIY that I don’t know where to start!”, Emma laughed. “This was initially in order to save money however it soon became clear we weren’t particularly saving money by doing it! It did, however, make our wedding personal and individual.”
Well that’s a wedding theme you don’t see every day! Claire and Neill both love wrestling and gothic culture so that’s where they started when it came to planning their March wedding.
“We had many different inspirations for our wedding”, said Claire. “Both of us are massive wrestling and rock music fans and we wanted to reflect this in our style and theme. We also both identify as atheists and feminists and really wanted a ceremony to reflect this too. Both our parents walked us down the aisle as we wanted to do away with any old symbolism associated with weddings.”
The wedding was held at Belleek Castle in County Mayo, Ireland. “Our celebrant, Bridget Carlin, was fantastic”, she continued. “She created a tailor made ceremony reflecting our love and belief system. We had a Celtic binding ceremony and both took soil from our respective grandparents’ houses. We are then to use this soil to grow a tree as a representation of our love.”
Logan and Hope were married at the Wharfinger Building, on the harbour of Eureka, California. They didn’t want a cheesy theme, they just wanted to include things they love. The result was this amazing leopard print and motorbike mash up!
“When we first started planning our wedding, I knew there were quite a few things we weren’t overly fond of”, the bride said. “My vision of a wedding has always had one plan: a party. We always joked that we would throw a giant fancy party and get married at the beginning of it… And that’s exactly what we did!”
“I took each detail of a ‘normal’ wedding and twisted it to satisfy what Logan and I wanted. We didn’t like any of the vows or ceremonies we read and since Logan’s dad was becoming ordained specifically to marry us, we worked with him to write our own, non-secular vows. I searched, and read and researched so many different vows and ceremonies and we wanted to be silly and personalised.”