Self Esteem, Body Confidence and Learning to Love Yourself

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If you’ve been reading my blog (or following me on Instagram!) for a while you’ll probably have already heard of Gala Darling. Not only is she one of my best friends, but I’ve been raving about her, and her message of Radical Self Love, for quite some time!

I first discovered her blog in early 2009 (check out my adorable fangirling) but it wasn’t until happenstance enabled us to meet IRL a few years later that I knew we were kindred spirits. There are just some people you meet who instantly light up your life and make the world seem like a more positive, happier place. Gala does this for me every single day and I’m so honoured to call her my friend.

If you too want to live a more magical, happy life then Gala’s brand new book will show you exactly how to do it. In Radical Self Love: A Guide To Loving Yourself And Living Your Dream you’ll begin to discover exactly what makes you so magnificent, and you’ll uncover a litany of tools and techniques to help you manifest a life that bursts with magic, bliss and adventure. I only wish this book was around when I was a depressed young adult consumed by my eating disorder. I really do feel like it should be mandatory reading for every single woman on the planet.

I could not be prouder of my girl for following her dream to becoming a best selling author. So to celebrate the release (and the fact that it hit the #1 spot in the self help category on Amazon!) I asked her if she’d like to share some tips for brides that might be struggling with their self esteem or body confidence. Of course she enthusiastically obliged.

1. Learn to love your body

Obsessing about the way we look can be one of the worst parts of getting married. Instead of freaking out, going on a crash diet that makes you feel like shit, and going on punishing runs, choose to be kind to your body instead. One of the best ways to do this is to take a burlesque class! (In New York City, Jo Weldon’s School of Burlesque is an awesome place to start, but there are classes all around the world.) In addition to learning a simple striptease — sure to delight your partner on your wedding night — you’ll discover the beauty, power, and agency of your own body. Few things are more liberating. Hell YES!

2. Remember that what other people think of you – or your wedding – is not your business!

When you’re looking at blogs like Rock n Roll Bride, which showcase the coolest weddings on the planet, it’s totally normal to feel intimidated and worry about whether your wedding will “measure up”. Will it be cool enough? Will it be Instagrammable? Will your wedding’s hashtag look as good as you hope?

Don’t get caught up in appearances. As much as we’d all love to have beautiful photos to look back on, ask yourself, what’s more important? Marrying someone you truly adore and having a magical day, or fussing with place-settings and obsessing about how many likes the photos get on Instagram?

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Fun and Easy-Going Back Garden Wedding

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Emi and Phil were married in their own back garden. They had a relatively small budget, so they wanted to do as much as they could themselves. They didn’t have a theme, they just wanted it to be laid back and fun for everyone.

“Phil and I had a brainstorming session where we sat down and wrote a few words we wanted to describe our wedding”. said Emi. “The words were fun, easy, comfortable, Mariachi band, simple décor, cupcakes, unique, and awesome. Then we had a list of words that we DIDN’T like which were rules, stuffiness, formality, show-offy, pretentious, themed, boring, and fancy. Then we tried to follow that loose rubric when doing our planning.”

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The bride wore an amazing emerald silk dress made Cargill Custom Costumes. She made her own headpiece from gilded copper and attached glass blackberries by Elizabeth Johnson to it!

“So much of our wedding was created by our talented loved ones”, the bride continued. “My dad, Jim, built the AMAZING outdoor bar. Our friend Michael constructed our dance floor while Collin and Tristen applied the glitter (very enthusiastically, may I add; Tristen fashioned a ‘glitter application tool’ by strapping a bottle of glitter onto a large bamboo pole). Phil’s mom made the outdoor linen curtains, and Phil’s dad grew the succulent gardens for the table décor.”

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Industrial and Bohemian Wedding in Phoenix

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The wedding of Chris and Brielle was held at The Icehouse in Downtown Phoenix, Arizona. Their goal was to save as much money as possible, but still have a beautiful wedding.

“I wanted everyone to remember the wedding as beautiful and a reflection of the love that we share”, said Brielle. “Who says you can’t have a gorgeous wedding on a budget!? It was exactly what I had imagined and more. The space already had so much character; it didn’t need an overload of décor. I searched every bargain shop for the decorations. Nothing about my style usually matches so my wedding decorations didn’t need to match either.”

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“The signs were either paintings or photo frames that I bought from Goodwill and turned into chalkboards, the cocktail room had photo holders made from candlesticks and wine corks (yes, wine was consumed to retrieve those), my flower crown, bouquet and bridesmaid’s bouquets were all made by my friend, Meredith. Also the wands for the getaway were made out of strips of cloth and wooden sticks, sparklers take too long to light!”

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Nostalgic Romance & Travel Themed Wedding

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With just a few guests and $7000 to spend, Joanne and Paul planned their travel themed wedding at Wakarusa Historical Museum. “The inspiration for our wedding was ‘love is a journey’ and nostalgia”, said the bride. “We both love to travel, hence the train station location. Our unique flowers were made of old maps and we had suitcases and atlas jars with candles. We also had lots of globes and vintage cameras. We were married in the waiting room of the train station.”

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“All the décor was DIY and we planned the whole thing ourselves. My favourite part of our wedding was our handwritten vows where we both expressed that we not only married one another, but our children too. We are a blended family of one another and three children total.”

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Want Your Wedding Business Seen By The Most Awesome Brides & Grooms EVER!?

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Er, of course you do! You may have read last week that I announced my stupidly exciting new venture, and today I wanted to tell you how you can get involved as a wedding supplier!

It’s all very well and good having the most amazing business idea ever, but if no-one knows about it, it might as well not exist. So if you make something awesome, or offer a killer service that you want brides and grooms to know about, then Rock n Roll Bride Magazine is the place for you!

This is your opportunity to place your product or service in front of the eyeballs of thousands of alternative wedding loving brides and grooms. Brides and grooms that are desperately and very actively searching for wedding suppliers just like you. Reading my magazine are the customers that you’ve always dreamed about having. So what are you waiting for?!

OK so maybe you always assumed that magazine advertising was super expensive? You know what, it really can be. I’ve seen first hand how much other publications have to charge to cover their costs, but not so with Rock n Roll Bride! As I said in my post last week, Gareth and I are going back to doing everything ourselves. Yes, it’s a lot of work (hard work has never scared me, ha!) but it means we’ve been able to slash our overheads significantly so that we can make our magazine ads INSANELY affordable.

Some people have told me I’m completely mental for making the prices so low… but I don’t care! I know how hard it can be for independent designers, Etsy sellers and indie businesses to get traction in this industry and I want to do something to change that.

For the next issue, adverts in the magazine will start from a teeny tiny £50!

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Colourful Wai-Ching Inspired Wedding Ideas

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Who fancies and injection of colour? Well I’ve certainly got that for you today! This shoot was set up by photographer Anna Reynal and Pop the Cork Events in Washington DC.

“We were inspired by all the colours!”, Anna told me. “I love weddings that are all about celebration and colour so we wanted to play with the idea of what a wedding would look like with ALL of them! We wanted it to look personal and modern.”

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“There were several inspirations for the shoot including the colour wheel, CMYK, and hex-colours. The latter is used digitally and gave us inspiration for including geometric elements.”

“We had an amazing dress from Wai-Ching. We love when brides infuse a lot of their personality into their weddings and think outside-the-box. The inspiration and theme really began to take shape once we found the amazing dress, we couldn’t NOT use it!”

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