Not all Rock n Roll weddings need to be epic DIY extravaganzas, rainbow heavens or tattoo-fests. Sometimes it’s just the fact that two people, madly in love are saying “I do” in their own unique way. That’s exactly what Jeanne and Lawrence did in August this year.
The wedding was held in the family home, a watermill in Loze, Tarn et Garonne, South West France. “We are both very political, and very much on the left”. wrote the bride. “We would also both identify as radical feminists so we really wanted to reclaim the concept of a wedding, out of its problematic patriarchal roots and into something that was meaningful to us. We only followed tradition when it made sense to us. For example, my godfather had really insisted to walk me to the altar (both my parents having passed away), but I had to vehemently refuse, as the symbolism of the bride being taken to her husband by a father figure is rather problematic to us. It was important to me to walk alone, yet surrounded by my chosen family: my bridesmaids and bridesmen.”
“We did not have traditionally gendered wedding parties”, she continued. “There were both men and women in the groom’s and bride’s crew (and I refused to have a ‘hen do’ too. I had a ‘wombat do’! it was a karaoke party two nights before the wedding and everyone was invited!. Lawrence and I wrote our own vows and discussed them with each other in advance to make sure we were OK with what we were promising each other. We took our vows very seriously so we did not want to keep them a surprise from each other. It was, rather, a collaborative experience, about articulating what we were really committing to.”
It’s been on a two week hiatus as I’ve been travelling so much over the past couple of weeks, but Thursday Treats is BACK with full force!
I got home early on Tuesday morning. My flight (Auckland-Sydney-Dubai-London – OUCH!) landed in Heathrow at 6am and I literally RAN to customs to be first in line to get through. It’s not that I just hate queuing, but because I had only a couple of hours until Gareth was hopping on a plane himself to go on a ski trip with my dad and sister!
We had just over an hour together when I got home. I lay in our bed as he packed around me and we chatted about all the silly things married couples chat about. I missed him SO MUCH during my jaunt down under and having to say goodbye again was totally sucky, but I am so grateful that we did at least get to see each other.
2015 resolution: less travel, more husband.
Weddings & Weddingy Things
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♥ 1940s inspired wedding in London
♥ Free spirited Palm Springs wedding
♥ Pennsylvania warehouse wedding
With Love & Embers
When I’m presented with a wedding where the bride rocks lace mouse ears, carries a rainbow lollipop in place of a bouquet, and her bridesmaids wear adorable little antler headbands, it’s going to be pretty much impossible for me to turn down featuring it. Have you ever seen so much cuteness all in one place?! The wedding took place at Rockhaven Farm in South Africa.
“Right from the start we wanted everyone to be relaxed and to have fun, and this idea influenced all the decisions we made for the wedding”, wrote the bride. “We had no seating plan, we had popcorn for guests to snack on during the reception, and the food was canapés served throughout the evening,. We wanted people to be free to move around and talk to more than the people sitting on either side of themselves.”
Ben and Helen had a casual wedding in Tooting. “We wanted to throw a wedding for our families as much as for us, to celebrate life and love and enjoy a special day together”, Helen said. “It was important to us to celebrate all the years we’d already had together (and all the ups and downs, joy, growing up and hard work in that!) rather than acting as if the wedding was the start. So that was part of the message on our invitations, and we got the Registrar to frame the ceremony that way in her welcome – a celebration of 8 and a half happy years and the witnessing of our next step together.”
The ceremony was held at Merton Registry Office and their reception at Tooting Tram & Social. They got the tube between the two! “We threw out any of the traditions that didn’t suit us, and built our day from the ground up to make sure it was personally meaningful”, she continued. “Traditions we ditched included the top table, cutting of the cake, fancy tired wedding cake, bride given away by father, bridesmaids, best man, receiving line, just men doing speeches. We included lots of creative and soppy details, and prioritising fun! Guests say they were still feeling the love and humming the tunes weeks later! Our venue was an old tram shed turned gig venue – a stunning reclaimed industrial space with gorgeous natural lighting, chandeliers, industrial piping and vintage tiles.”
Ajay and Ejay were married at The Mango Farm in Antipolo, The Philippines. They chose pink and black as their colour scheme, and their theme was a mix of Converse trainers (which they both love) and music!
“We wanted to show our different personalities on our wedding day, so we started planning the wedding with just a black and pink theme”, said the bride. “Ajay was a rocker before becoming a lawyer and he’s still the vocalist of a rock band, loves wearing black shirts, and listens to Metallica. I, on the other hand, am a girly-girl. I love Hello Kitty and anything pink!”
“We incorporated other details that we both love,” she continued. “Ajay wanted to wear Chuck Taylor’s with his suit and we asked the groomsmen to wear the same. The flower girls also wore them and I changed into them for the evening. We even encouraged our guests to wear them if they wanted! On the day we were surprised that almost everyone wore them, even those who wore dresses! To fit the theme we put the Chuck Taylor image on our save the date, invitation, monogram, and table names. It became the icon that tied the whole theme together.”
Rosie and Colin live in London but wanted to get married in Scotland, where Colin is from. They took inspiration from lots of places for the theme, but the three key elements were skulls, Scotland and vintage 1920s touches.
“We took inspiration from all over the place for our wedding!” said Rosie. “I have a skull tattoo on my arm and have always loved anything including skulls! I also love the juxtaposition of skulls with other really beautiful things like flowers, I think it has such a striking impact. A lot of people don’t get the skull thing. When I spoke about some of my wedding décor ideas, some people said ‘right, so you’re having a Halloween themed wedding?’. Far from it! When everyone saw it come together they all loved it.”