Just Go! Why Fear of the Unknown is Holding You Back

the blogcademy la Milou and Olin5

I’m not a seasoned traveller and I’ve never had wild dreams of far flung adventures. I had no internal yearning to fly off to Thailand after school to ‘find myself’, nor a burning desire to backpack around the world, drinking in all it has to offer. The mere suggestion of solo travel like that terrifies me. The slow and steady safety net of home was quite enough for me – or so I thought.

Before The Blogcademy I’d travelled very little and never on my own (bar one short flight to Prague last Summer). In fact my latest jaunt over the Atlantic was my very first long haul flight on my lonesome. I like to think that I’m pretty industrious and, contrary to popular belief, I’m fairly streetwise under this hot pink exterior. I can read instructions, I know how to navigate from one terminal to the other (pro-tip: ask someone!) and booking an apartment to stay in or a car to pick you up really isn’t as daunting as for some reason I thought it would be. But I’m not afraid to admit that I was still a little nervous when Gareth dropped me off at Heathrow three weeks ago. What if I missed my connecting flight? What if I couldn’t find Gala at our designated meeting spot? What if my luggage got lost?

the blogcademy la Milou and Olin9

There were so many questions flying around my head, many of which could have stopped me getting on that plane completely. But you know what? I managed it all. I felt ever so grown up ordering breakfast on my own in the terminal and I even managed to upgrade my seat without much bother. As I plonked myself down in my extra-leg room loveliness a sweet family from Sheffield sat alongside me (thankfully their children were teenagers not screaming babies!) and we spent the whole flight gassing away, talking about each other’s respective trips and I loved giving the 16 year old girl haircare and tattoo tips (I’m sure her mother was ever so grateful!) But it wasn’t scary at all.

the blogcademy la Milou and Olin11

It’s OK to feel nervous about new experiences or feel scared about those big and small (sometimes the small ones can be just as sweat-inducing) steps that you are taking to further your business. Just don’t let them hold you back. Look them straight in the eye and shout out loud “I can do this, I can rely on myself and get this done!” Put one foot in front of the other and realise that it probably won’t be as scary as you’re imagining.

So why not let go of that fear and go on a wild adventure with yourself? I can’t wait to hear all about it when you come back.

Supporting Cast

13 comments

  1. Veronica

    Thank you so much for this post, Kat; it comes at exactly the right time for me to hear this again from an expert! I’m trying to set up my own business (against all odds, during the huge crisis in Spain) and fear definitely doesn’t help, but is hard not to have! Thanks for being such an insipration! 😀

  2. Damn straight. Remembering that everyone else is just as nervous as you helps. 🙂 and if you’re not nervous, it’s probably not that important to you.

  3. Kat, I’m also starting my own wedding related business & I love reading your blog posts. I wanted to start writing my own blog, but had no idea what to write. Then after reading your blog, it all made sense – just write what you feel!
    I’ve not done many posts yet, but already had a few comments back, so thanks Kat 🙂

  4. Krista

    LOVE THIS!

    Was just sweating about a workshop I want to take – this is perfect timing 🙂

  5. How very true. I’m often nervous and twitchy before big business-y stuff but I take a huge breath, square my shoulders and get on with it. It’s only going to help in the long run.

  6. I caught myself doubting the road I’m dreaming to take yesterday, but reading this helps kick those thoughts out of my head so I can just go for it! Thanks Kat!

  7. Maddy

    I love this post, and the totally appropriate timing! Two years ago this month my sister sent me a link to this blog, where I was living in the Himalayas, and today i arrived back at that same town after two years away! Back then I was four months into travelling around India. I had never been into the travelling thing and at the age of 28 considered myself too old!! I was way too constricted by fears and limitations of missing friends, family, the future, lack of money, etc etc. But I had been made redundant from my job and the guy I was seeing suggested we go travelling. He proposed the week before we flew, and we had the most amazing time travelling around India. We got married in a field last August and are now four months into an 18 month honeymoon.

    My life has so radically changed since I let go of the fears and belief system that I “should” be doing this, that and the other thing, and now I am opening myself up to a whole world of possibilities, heading to Thailand to start another chapter.

    Now that the wedding has been and gone, I love to read these Green Room posts which continue to be so inspiring.Thank you for your dedication!

  8. Maddy

    I love this post, and the totally appropriate timing! Two years ago this month my sister sent me a link to this blog, where I was living in the Himalayas, and today i arrived back at that same town after two years away! Back then I was four months into travelling around India. I had never been into the travelling thing and at the age of 28 considered myself too old!! I was way too constricted by fears and limitations of missing friends, family, the future, lack of money, etc etc. But I had been made redundant from my job and the guy I was seeing suggested we go travelling. He proposed the week before we flew, and we had the most amazing time travelling around India. We got married in a field last August and are now four months into an 18 month honeymoon.

    My life has so radically changed since I let go of the fears and belief system that I “should” be doing this, that and the other thing, and now I am opening myself up to a whole world of possibilities, heading to Thailand to start another chapter!

    Now that the wedding has been and gone, I love to read these Green Room posts which continue to be so inspiring.Thank you for your dedication!

  9. Post author

    Thanks for all the green room love today guys. Means so much, you have no idea. Love you all

  10. Sometimes I think you read my mind. My anxiety is flying high, as I leave the U.S. on April 22 to start my adventure in the Philippines. It scares me to be so far away from my family and I have to leave my dog behind 🙁 But my boyfriend is already living there and loving it, so I have that to look forward to. Thank you for this little boost in courage.

  11. Nicola Gomersall

    I love travelling on my own. Five years ago I quit my job, sold my house, broke up with my boyfriend and flew to Sydney, Australia where i lived for a year. I’m now getting ready to back-pack around the world by myself and cannot wait, maybe I like my own company a little too much!

Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *